Bachelorette Party Nightmare.....

LOL Val!

The best part is... it wasn't even the kids complaining about the cost of a nice dinner. It was some of the adults. That's what made me laugh.... they complain about the cost of doing stuff they don't wanna do but will spend an arm and a leg doing something that sounds fun to them.

Welp... I just texted all the kids to see if they could do dinner one night just a nice get together... no shenanigans LOL. I'll see what they say and then go from there!

Sorry to hear, the bachelorette party should be planned by your bridal party and be a fun surprise for you. I agree about leaving out the under aged girls. Its nice that you are including them in the bridal party, but a bachelorette party is an adult event. Its expensive and liquor should be involved, 2 things that the under 21 set aren't prepared for. I like your camping idea, and its a shame that they don't want to come together for that. It seems like an economical option to me, far cheaper than bar hoping and staying at a hotel in the city. I hope they come through for you in the end. The party is supposed to be a fun and relaxing time for you in the whirlwind of wedding planning.

But that said, I am also getting involved in trying to help plan my own bachelorette party, because my MOH is dragging her feet IMO, and the other BMs are not responding to requests for trying to coordinate a weekend. I have 5 BMs, 2 are FH's sisters and are both out of state so they are an assumed no, my MOH is my long time BFF, one BM is a friend from college, and the other is FH's childhood friend that I have become pretty good friends with. None of them know each other other than having met while dress shopping, so I think that is a contributing factor. All I said that I want is strippers and booze and I will be a happy camper. We are smack in the middle between Chicago and Milwaukee, so we have plenty of options.

MOH doesn't want to do Chicago b/c she was a MOH last summer for a work friend of hers and she said everything was super expensive and the hotel in the city was so noisy that even though she had been drinking she couldn't fall asleep. I don't want to do Milwaukee b/c there is only 1 place w/male strippers and its right next to the airport (the cock-pit lol) and there is nothing else around that area. So MOH suggested Lake Geneva (there is a male review called the Sugar Shack nearby that we have been to before). But since the wedding is in September, we wanted to do the party in August. I looked into hotels in Lake Geneva, and holy cow are they expensive, plus most of them are already booked on the weekends in August and most for weekends in the summer require a 2 night stay. I feel like my BMs aren't really interested in putting this together for me, or at least don't feel there is urgency to have things planned in advance so that it runs smoothly. I am kind of a control freak when it comes to planning, so maybe I am just overreacting.

Can you find some BYOB's? This way doing drinks after dinner wont be such a burden to the BM's? (not saying your party is a burden)

Haha it's ok Kristen. I know you aren't but that's the way they make it seem so it was fitting

Pinguino, glad to see I am not the only one with slackers in the bridal party haha

Zottie, come to Michigan and we will fete you royal!

And off topic, pinguino, I just love your name! We used to call my mom "Penguina."

@pinguino - I don't understand the hotel noise complaint as a reason for boycotting an entire city. Does your friend know that there is more than one hotel in Chicago? o.O

Awe thanks Tina! I wish I could!!!

@purplekitten - I know, its an odd reason. She is very... particular lol. Really I think she just wants to avoid the cost of Chicago. She said that if we were going to do one of the cities she would rather do Milwaukee, so I think the main reason is budget. She makes good money, better than anyone else in the bridal party (myself included), but she is single and just bought her first house recently, so I think she is worried about the budget. Plus when she was MOH for her work friend last year that girl had a similar set up as OP where most of the bridal party was under aged, in school (aka broke) family members of the bride and groom, so her and the girl's other MOH split the cost on everything. Now, I was under the impression that usually all the BMs are supposed to chip in, and the cost doesn't fall only on the MOH, but that is what happened to her last year and I think it jaded her some.

ETA @Tina BoBina - Thanks! penguins are a special animal for us. FH for one of our early holidays, I can't remember what one now, gave me a stuffed penguin after we watched a nature documentary that talked about how penguins pick a mate and stick with them for life. A little cheesy I know. He is not the smoothest guy in the world, but that was always a special thing to me. As for the Spanish, I just like the way it sounds in Spanish better haha. Why did you call your mom Penguina?

Yeah, everything in Chicago is expensive.

Just go to Kenosha? Ron's Place FTW!

Never heard of Ron's Place, from yelp it looks like a burger joint? Our spot in Ktown is call "The Spot". Its a drive-in that we hit up on our way to late night grocery shopping at Woodman's and on the way home from concerts at the Rave in Milwaukee. I'm sure since you said your FH is from Kenosha he has at least heard of it. If you recommend Ron's Place we will check it out sometime

I agree that you need to just do something without the underage girls, who can't even afford a dinner out?? I mean seriously?

Chicago's really not that expensive... tons of places have great shows, drink specials, etc.. check out Wrigleyville area

We are going to a winery for the day. Everyone is brining an appetizer and we are going just hang out and listen to the band. The people who don't want to drink wine will bring their own beverage.

That must be super frustrating! I think breaking it up and trying to do something with the younger and then something with the older is a great idea! As long as you have the time for it then it seems like a good way to make both people happy. Dinner with the young and drinks with the older! You deserve a night to have fun and go out to celebrate. I hope it happens, or I hope there is a surprise. Keep us updated!

Let it go.