Bachelorette Party - One night or weekend?

Both my FH and I are having a one day event. We are not into long parties no need for that especially when so many people
will have to travel for it since its
out of town it’s where
we are getting married (in FL and we live in NY) so we are going to each do our event the week of our wedding close to the actual date so everyone that wants to come can make it.

I feel like one night is enough! A whole weekend is just a lot for everyone. It’s time consuming and expensive, and weddings are already so expensive especially for the bridal party. Idk why or how weekend trips suddenly became the norm lol, i wouldn’t have felt right asking anyone to do that.

Mine was only one night, and that was perfect for me. I am such a homebody and I need my sleep, so there's no way I could've (comfortably) gone 2 nights in a row with less than 4 hours of sleep while drinking the entire time.

We'll be doing a long weekend- but only because our lodging will be free. When my MOH and I were talking about it I told her to make sure it didn't break the bank. I'm super excited, and it'll be nice to have some time with my girls.

As a soon to be bridesmaid, I can tell you that the peer pressure is real, even if no one is actually pressuring. If your MOH throws you a multi night party, the others will feel pressured to join in, regardless of finances or anything else they may prefer to do. The longer and more expensive your party, the more likely people will drop out. I agree that you should NEVER ask for more than what you are offered.

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Miami sounds like so much fun!

I told my MOH that I wanted to do a low-key weekend. I know the "correct" thing is not to dictate your own party when someone else is throwing it, but honestly she's my best friend and she has asked me every step of the way "how involved do you want to be? Total surprise or do you want to give me all the details and I'll book whatever you want?" I wanted to be conscious of everyone's budget so I told her we need to stay in state, but ideally I'd like everyone to come in Friday and leave Sunday. I'm fine with even staying in town and just doing stuff I wouldn't normally do downtown. If your MOH is super close to you, I'd just ask her if she's open to your suggestions or if she'd rather just plan the whole thing alone. You never know, maybe she WANTS your input but doesn't want to ask.

I'm not sure what we are doing. Most of my bridesmaids can't attend since they live out of town/out of state. Thinking to get a hotel room (fiance works there) and go out for dinner and karaoke

Maybe you could do a bachelorette party night, but then just do a "non wedding" related weekend away with just your Maid of Honor or something?

Originally I was going to ask to do something local and low key/budget friendly but the more my MOH and I talked about it, the more we knew that would sooo not be my thing. I went to school in Miami and it’s one of my favorite places ever. We talked about it logistically and we decided that we will do a weekend trip there! Not quite sure how many people will end up attending but we figured my MOH, my sister, and two good friends from school are definitely in and that’s enough of a party for us if no one else decides to come! I cannnnnot wait ☺️

View Quoted Comment Sounds like so much fun!

Lots of judgy people in these forums who don’t seem to realize their opinion is not the only valid opinion. Plenty of people prefer a multiple-day bachelorette trip. I myself prefer this because I can’t imagine asking everyone to get up and get the *#$! out of the Airbnb by 11 AM for checkout the next day after partying all night. People need downtime. Every single bachelorette party I’ve ever been to was a two-night trip that had one night for partying and another for recovering. If you don’t understand or want that, keep it to yourself.