Bachelorette party: People inviting themselves..advice??

"I'm sorry, we're keeping it small. Not everyone was invited."

"Sorry, we were unable to invite you"

"It's a bit rude to assume you were invited."

Depends how nice you want to be. She's being rude, so you can either stop replying to her texts, or just tell her. She's not caring about the position she's putting you in, so meh.

Is your bachelorette just members of your bridal party? If so, not inviting her seems fine. If it's a larger party with lots of people, I'd probably just invite her. But I agree, it's odd to invite yourself.

I'd let her know she isn't invited so that she can stop trying to plan around it (even though she's being super presumptuous here). You can just tell her something like "Sorry, it's a small bachelorette party and not everyone is invited."

Wow, this is a tough one, for sure. But it seems like the only way to avoid hurt feelings is to invite her. For whatever reason, she is assuming she'll be on the list for the bachelorette party. That is on her, as nobody should ever assume things like that. But I understand why you don't want to invite her, so that's not a real solution for you. In that case, you may have to just deal with someone's hurt feelings. "Sorry, but my bridal party is planning the whole thing, and they kept the invite list small." You won't be able to control her reaction, or how she deals with you in the future, so all you can do is be kind when you break the news, and hope for the best.

This happened with me but with one of FH's friends. He spilled the beans to too many people about our group bridal party trip and then this friend of his was like oh can't wait for it. I'm like uhhhh he's not coming. We already have enough people/couples because we extended it to spouses/so's we know and really would like to spend the trip with. He was not really one of them. Basically everyone coming is attached to someone else in the bridal party so it would be weird if this other friend comes. Hoping FH and the friend forgot about it so when we book we just go with the original guest list.

Idk I guess you just have to be firm with her since she keeps asking (rude? like why haha). Say you are keeping it small and the bridal party is making the arrangements and that everyone was decided on already. Additionally, say it wouldn't have been possible to invite everyone/too hectic!

I would not invite her, its your day and if you're not close it will be weird to have her there. I would just say "Sorry, my bridal party is setting it up, and were trying to keep it small so only them and a few others were invited. I am looking forward to celebrating with you at the wedding though!"
Remember, its her that is rude, you don't need to worry too much about her feelings or be embarrassed, its her that needs to be embarrassed for imposing herself on your special day. You already did your nice deed by inviting her to the wedding.

Tell her you are limited on the guest list, your not planning it not everyone is being invited