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Bachelorette party planning!

Patty, on November 11, 2019 at 4:05 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 11
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So I’m MOH and reached out to the bridal party about individual budgets, and it’s quite a spectrum (there is 4 of us) some girls say they have no budget and can do all the things and a few girls have tight budgets. we are doing a weekend destination bachelorette party (per the brides request) and I’m not sure about how to plan for covering the brides cost. Hotels are pricey, and split between all 5 of us would def reduce individual costs, but two bridesmaids are insisting we pay for EVERYTHING for the bride. I would love to! But in reality I can’t afford this. How should I go about this dilemma?

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Latest activity by Patty, on November 12, 2019 at 3:06 PM
  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    If the bride is requesting a weekend destination bachelorette party, she should at least pay for her own accommodations. I would talk to the bride about this and be sure she doesn't expect everyone to pay for her. If she does, then tell her that a weekend destination bachelorette won't work for everyone's budget.

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    Savvy December 2020
    Patty ·
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    The bride doesn’t expect us to, but two of the bridesmaids have been adamant on paying for her, even though I told them it wasn’t in everyone’s budget. Should I tell the two who want to, that they can pay for her share if they want but the whole group can’t?
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  • Christine
    Expert September 2020
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    I'd first set expectations for the bride - let her know that everyone is very excited for her bachelorette party but that some of the guests have tighter budgets so you won't be able to pick up all of her expenses for the weekend. Considering that it's a weekend destination bachelorette, I'm sure she'll understand! Then talk to the attendees again and figure out what you can cover for the bride - maybe you can cover a few meals, maybe it's the hotel instead, maybe the people with unlimited budgets can chip in for some extra things.

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    Yes, I would do exactly that. If they feel like they need to pay for the bride, then by all means they can do that. But they need to understand that not everyone can afford to do so.

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  • Madison
    Dedicated August 2020
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    Let the two girls who want to contribute provide for the bride, and let the bride cover the rest.
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  • Givemeallthepups
    Expert February 2020
    Givemeallthepups ·
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    Totally agree with this. That’s awesome and generous that they want to cover the bride’s costs! But if it’s not doable for everyone, I would just say that and let them know they’re free to cover the bride’s portion themselves.
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    I agree with everyone else. It's awesome that you asked budgets, but if you don't stick to them it's kind of silly. Just tell the girls who are insisting on covering the bride that if they would like to pay her share they can and tell them what it will cost. No need to involve the others who can't afford it (or don't want to). It will just make them feel bad.

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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    I agree with everyone and maybe the bride can also have a bachelorette dinner too for those that cannot travel. I know I have not been able to attend many a getaway bachelorette due to money and would love to celebrate. If those two want to pay for all then let them do so but do not feel like you need to go broke.

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  • Megan
    Super October 2020
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    It’s great that you’re asking the budgets of the rest of the bridesmaids, but it seems like the bride is the one pushing for the destination bachelorette party. If that’s the case and she’s the one pushing for the more expensive weekend then she should be contributing for her share.
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  • Sarah
    Expert August 2020
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    I think you have to tell the 2 that you think it's wonderful they want to pay for the bride but it's not in everyone's budget. You can express that while the bride does not expect to have her costs covered, they are welcome to split it between the 2 of them.

    I am doing a weekend bachelorette but told my 2 MOH's to keep it at $150 or less per person and that I would pay my share. They made it their goal to cover my share within that budget. We adjusted locations to make it more affordable.

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    Savvy December 2020
    Patty ·
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    All great thoughts thank you! I can’t help but feel like a crappy friend bc it’s nearly killing me to know I’m paying 350 in hotel fees.l for the weekend. That’s not even including and drinks food or outings
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