bachelorette party problems!!!...Need opinions!

I'd think that was pretty far. I'm doing Atlantic City which is 50 minutes from my house and like 1hr 20 from the rest of my family, and that's a trip to them because quite a few of my cousins have babies.

Are all your girls and whoever may come single? Do they have SOs or babies? It might be too much of a trip because they are thinking they could be spending time with others. Just your travel time to and fro is like a bachelorette party in itself. Is there anything to do a little closer to home?

Usually it's up to somebody else to plan your bachelorette party...

I'd say it's only too much if they're not willing. If they love the idea, great, go all out. You might want to find out from whomever is thinking about going because you don't want to guilt trip them and have them be bitter while at the party because we've all seen the drama that can ensue!

We're in Wisconsin and are planning on a weekend in Nashville TN for the bach party. But my sisters and I are the type of people who love to travel and plan on sticking to a tight budget. The majority of the bridal party was cool with the idea so that's what we're planning and we are only asking the bridal party to come, no additional people. We'll have to fly there so were staying in a hotel close to the entertainment district so that we don't have to rent a car. And plan to get a suite with a kitchen so that we can eat at the hotel some instead of out.

BTW - I was thinking of doing our mini-moon in Greenville - any suggestions Victoria? We're thinking like 3 days to relax and do some fun stuff like kayaking, ride bikes, eat/drink, and maybe drive over to tour the Biltmore. It would be in June. Please message me if you have any suggestions! I've only been looking at info online so hearing from you would be extremely helpful!

Thanks ladies! All but 3 of my girls have significant others but no one has any children. We had been discussing going to Atlanta before as a girls trip but everybody's schedule didn't allow it at that time. @SupermanBride my BM's are planning my party together and they don't want me to be part of the planning process but i think I have a little control freak inside of me that is making talk to them about the planning so much...lol

What, what! I work in Greenville, NC

It's pretty typical for us to go off for the weekend. We've gone to Charleston, Savannah, Orlando, NYC... not much to do in Greenville. Charlotte would be tons of fun and usually reasonably priced.

Only 1 of of the last 10 bachelorette parties I have been to wasn't a weekend away somewhere. My friends and I always use the bachelorette as an excuse for a fun girls trip somewhere. Since someone else plans your party, let what you would like be known, but also understand that your bridal party has to be willing and able to do that for you. I don't think what you would like is abnormal or extravagant.

@ashleigh that is so funny!! I have only seen one other bride so far from eastern NC...lol

@T&J I live in Greenville NC and you are thinking about Greenville, SC. I live about 5-6 hours away from the biltmore and that area. sorry

My girls are planning my party. I have no idea. I'm a control freak, but their reasoning "Bachelorette party is to lose control". I told them I wanted to at least make a few guidelines and they agreed to let me choose 3:

No genital paraphanalia

Not in Philly (since it's where we live and we've been nearly everywhere)

At minimum a week before the wedding (no Hangover's for this bride!)

They agreed and now I can't wait until I get to spend time with my girls!!

@ArborDay are we neighbors? I am about 40 mins from AC, NJ - LOL. I agree that the planning is up to the BMs and not the bride.....I don't care what we do as long as it doesn't include strippers and out of control people. I told my MOH that I would prefer a spa day with the gals and a nice dinner afterwards. Or a weekend at on of the gals beach houses.

I would let them plan it. I told my bridesmaids that I would like it to be in New England (where I live), no strippers or strip clubs, and no lists of crap I need to do by the end of the night. Other than that, I am not involved in the planning at all. I think it will be a weekend because most of my girls live several hours away, but it's up to them

I am/was pretty involved with the planning of my bachelorette party. I picked the place...Austin, TX. We all live in Houston, so it is about a 2 1/2 hour drive. They asked me what I would want to do and not.

I know my MOH started planning this in November since it would be out of town and some people would need to find sitters, save, etc. If you are going out of town I would just tell who ever is planning to plan in advance for people to be able to make it.

I had planned on going to NYC for mine, but took a new job and had to cancel at the last minute. So we did a last minute trip to Myrtle Beach. NOT what I had envisioned for my bachelorette party... but it was a good time. Since we booked on Thursday for a Friday and Sat nights, we got a last minute deal for a 3 bedroom, ocean front, pent house suite hotel for $80 a night!

But, if they know what you want, I'm sure they will work it all out and it will be fabulous!

I live in Northern California and we are doing Labor Day weekend for ours. Originally I planned to do San Diego (10 hours away) and he was going to do Tahoe (4 hours away). Once we started thinking about things we realized most of the guests are couples and would prob enjoy a weekend away together, especially with the cost. We thought about it and decided to do a coed weekend, with Saturday day & night being designated girls/guys outings. We are in our 30's and neither of is want the "last night of freedom" thing but we don't want some quality time with our friends.

Now we just need to decide on a location. Tahoe will be more affordable and offers the 24/7 party that a California city can't since there's a 2am closing time...but San Diego has better beaches. We shall see...

Well, personally, that's a lot of money to ask your friends to spend when they're likely already spending a bunch on wedding stuff. I'd say keep it closer.

Lucky me, I live 30 minutes outside of New Orleans, so we are doing it big Mardi Gras style in the big easy!!! Laissez Les Bon Temps Rouler baby!!!!

I guess that I am a little bit wilder than some of you ladies because my girls know that if there were no strippers at my bachelorette party we would have problems but almost all of my girls agree to that and are looking forward to the dancers as well. yall make me feel better about wanting to go out of town!

Just let your girls plan it. You can give some ideas but ultimately it should be up to them and their budgets what they can do for you. I told my sister I wanted a hotel room so there wasn't driving and no penis paraphernalia, but I would wear other things (sash, tiara, etc). She ran with it and it was lovely - and within the budget she and the other girls could afford.

I live in Charlotte! It's a good time. Lots of stuff to do! If I were you though, I'd do a beach weekend, either Charleston or Savannah! The beach might be more "realistic" sounding since it's like a normal vacation plus penis shaped cakes.

I know of several mid Michigan brides to be having bachelorette weekends in Chicago. A lot go by train and enjoy the 4-5+ hour travel time together, too.

But I agree to let your girls plan it and you be sure to enjoy it. You can always have a girls weekend in Atlanta later.

@Ashleigh I live in SC what site did you book a suite for that price. Please!!!!! Share!!!