Bachelorette Party Problems

I'm sorry to hear about this. This is supposed to be one of the most exciting and memorable moments in your life and for them not to see that is very ridiculous. It's not like your trying to get them to go to Vegas or something. Drinks, or clubbing is cheap. Even just hanging at your house is not asking for much at all. I agree maybe ask your mother or another close relative to hang out with you. Hell even if you cant get anyone, go solo!! This is your time! Don't let them rain on your parade! I've had plans where ppl have bailed on me and I just carried on...took myself to the movies or dinner or happy hour and had a good relaxing time to myself....you deserve it no matter what they do! Again this is your time, if I was close I'd buy you a drink myself!!! It doesn't hurt to cut back on a few things to save up for a loved ones wedding. Its called prioritizing. They should know this. So if mom's can't go with you, still go out and enjoy yourself hun!

This whole situation makes me really sad, especially when your MOH is your best friend and the rest of your bridesmaids are your sisters!! It doesn't sound like you're asking for much at all, and they won't even come over for a girls night to hang out?! I'm sorry this is happening ... as others have posted, definitely have a heart to heart and explain how much it would mean to you if everyone could get together and have dinner or do each other's nails and watch a movie. If they still don't want to do anything, have a day/night out for yourself ... get your nails done, go shopping, or relax at home with a movie!

What about a girls night at someone house and everyone bring a dish or wine?

I'm sorry about the situation. Suggest a dinner out or something. Everyone pays for themselves, no expectations, just a fun night out with friends.

I'm in a similar situation. All but one of my bridesmaids live out of state so I don't see a bachelorette party happening.

Your "friends" sound lovely...

I wouldn't have any bridesmaids..that is really sad because it sounds like there in the wedding for the wrong reasons..it's about you and they should do what makes you happy..my bridesmaid paying 200 a peice for the wedding and we going out for drinks for bachelorette party. .that's just mean

As I read this I'm hoping they are giving all these excuses because they are planning an AMAZING surprise party for you! :-)

All but 1 of my girls lives out of state. I doubt I will have a bachelorette party or that they will come to a shower for me. I totally get it, it's expensive and stuff but also time off work. I may try to see if the one girl here wants to go on a girls weekend. I know how you feel but try talking with them and communication is key to this!

All of my girls live out of state. We are renting a cabin and having a girls night the Thursday before our wedding. My girls are also on a limited budget, so we are having a night in on a day they're already going to be in town. I am so sorry you're dealing with this. You deserve way better from your so-called friends. If it were me, I would see if you can plan a night in that they would attend. If not, see if you can go out for a night to celebrate with your mom - it sounds like she is the one who is in your corner!

You're not sounding whiny at all. Your feelings are completely justified. I sincerely hope everything turns out okay.

Are these women your closest friends? Maybe see if your other friends would be willing to do a mini girls night with you.

I'm sorry they don't wish to better demonstrate their love for you and joy in your upcoming life. I'm with Still Waiting. Maybe they're planning a kick-ass surprise party.

Why did you ask these people to be bridesmaids in the first place? Not trying to be mean but it doesn't sound like this is your best friend, as she won't come over for wine and a movie?

Wow. Honestly, your Bridesmaids suck. I'm sorry I would plan something with your mom, your bridesmaids, and any other friends. Like the paint and sip thing would be perfect! If they don't come, tell them that's too bad. Don't let them ruin the experience for you.

What about just doing a sleep

Over with your girls?! That's what we did with my sister. The night before her wedding all the girls stayed the night at my apartment. We brought a bunch of air mattresses and just hung out.

Omg.... they won't even come over to your house to hang out, watch a movie and drink wine?? Are these women even your friends?? Wtf. I would be PISSED more than hurt.

I love the paint and sip idea; we have a glass studio that does this with a lampworked bead session instead.

It really does sound like something more is going on here....but don't judge your BP by what the guys are doing. It's not a competition.

I am so sad for you! I want to take you out and have an amazing night. Everyone deserves a fun night out. It's when people get bratty and want a paid Vegas trip or something that it because "bridezilla-ish". All you want it a little love and fun. You're paying for a LOT! I am so sorry this is happening to you.

Thank you all for the kind words. I talked with my Mom today and she suggested seeing if the girls want to go out after my shower next week. She has even offered to pick up the tab although me and my FI will probably see if we have anything extra in our budget so she doesn't have to do that.

Wow, reading all this..... omg, I would flip!!! I am so sorry they sound awful and I would relieve them all of their duties. I really hope you don't pay to take them out