Bachelorette Party Question!

Typically it is planned as a surprise but I have also been to ones that the bride knows all about. You should know the date but the MOH typically plans the activities without you knowing.

I am having a say in what we do, but don't know everything that is planned. I was asked what is something I REALLY want to do and what is something I DON'T want to do! Then they are planning!

I am having some say in what we do but there will still be some suprises in there. The MOH and BM's are not telling me everything! I'm a bit nervous about the suprises!!! lol

I want to be suprised! i know we are going to vegas and that's it! i trust my girls! but it really can be either way.

My MOH and one BM's live in MD, when I was up there visiting in Feb. they had a Suprise party for me and I loved it!!!

I know when it is, where, and where we're going for dinner and afterwards but I have no idea what's going to happen at the actual party I just told her I didn't want to walk around with little penises all over me!!

Typically, its a surprise, but they should ask you if you have any no-nos. 'im not having a bachelorette party' lol. fh cant have one cuz if he does, his family would wanna plan it and they would be crazy with the alcohol and strippers and the gambling., theyd end up spending more than were spending on the wedding too! and theyd get mad if he had one without them. lol. but im doing a boudoir photography session, and i figured hey, no point in wasting money on a hotel room if were just gonna use it for 2 hours! so well stay there the night of and have a little girl fun.

Thanks everyone. I was just curious becuase my sister is my MOH and she is planning it and not invovling me at all. There are ideas that she has that I don't want to do. And I wasn't sure if she had free rein or if I could say anything.

I just got back from my bachelorette weekend yesterday--it wasn't a surprise in that I knew it was happening, but I asked that they not tell me anything more, including where we were going, staying, who was coming, etc. I did request no Vegas and no strippers, but thankfully my ladies know me, so there wasn't much of a chance of that happening.

Honestly, I don't think there are any rules--I think it can be whatever you want it to be!

I just wanted to share something that some of you might consider when making bachelorette plans for your friends or siblings. One thing I found that makes a great impression is surprising the person with a funny gift. I personally found the "Pecker Pinata" quite amusing and so did the bride and her friends. So when it comes to surprises, this one will for sure be unforgeable. You can see an example here: http://www.room4play.com/products/4731-bachelorette-party-favors-19-pecker-pinata

I've never heard of a surprise bachelorette party and I've been to quite a few of them.

Its your bachelorette. You should have an easygoing conversation about what you really want or really don’t want. Don’t come at her saying her ideas you’ve heard are bad, just simply throw some ideas out there. As a MOH and host, she should care about what you want and pay attention to what you’re saying. Once you’ve expressed that to her, relax and be happy it’s one less thing you have to plan! 😊