Bachelorette Party rsvp Timing

I would think they could give you an answer as to whether or not they plan on attending now. If they are flying in then they will need to book flights.

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Thank you! That's what I thought. And maybe I'm weird but I prefer as much advanced notice as possible. I just don't want to be a bridezilla!

This is just one of the many reasons why brides shouldn't plan their own bachelorette parties. It's nice you are paying accommodations, but all of this back and forth conversations, pressuring for early RSVPs, etc., can just get so awkward. What if they want to come but don't know yet if they can afford it? What if they say they are coming but something happens later and they have to cancel. Will you be upset if you paid for a too-large place?

I think it makes much more sense to just let your friends do all the planning and then you pay the accommodations tab at the end.

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Thanks for your response! So it is too early to ask for an rsvp? And I totally would not be mad if I paid for a place that can house 13 and less came. My MOH was planning it with another girlfriend who's attending but she has SOO much going on in her life right now, it was just too much stress so I offered to take it off her hands.

If your MOH can't plan the bachelorette, what about your other bridesmaids?

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You can ask but not everyone knows their schedule this far out, or can afford to spend the money on plan tickets right now, or likes to plan ahead, or...you see what I am saying? For some people, 4 months feels like a short amount of time; for others it is looooooonnnnng. Depends on the personality type. Not much you can do.

Just book the 13-person place and check that item off your list.

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Most of them are planing it actually! Some are doing the activities, others the decorations or favors or transportation, I'm just doing the accommodations.

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Thank you Maggie! That's so true, four months to me seems so short but it's probably because I've been planning a wedding for so long haha I feel like booking enough for everyone is just a better option! Thanks all!

I would say to just book the bigger space and not worry about it. I’m a planner to so for me I could commit or not commit but for some who aren’t planners this seems to far out for them. If you get the bigger space now it takes the pressure off you and then and just give them some time to commit.

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So true, thank you!!

Hey Beryl,


Congratulations, I think you should book the larger accomodations to be on the safe side, some girls may not be able to commit, 4 months out, as long as you don't mind paying, it'll be one less thing on your plate!!

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Thank you! And I totally agree! I think its better to have more availability and not need it, then to need the space and not have enough. Thanks Don!

I'm very involved in planning my bach party which is in August. And I am getting dates of availability for my girls with my MOH and she is about to book the airbnb like now....

So I think it just depends on how flaky or planning oriented your people are.

I am working around 2 other fall weddings in my close circle so I wanted to get my dates in before them because I've been engaged the longest honestly.

My MOH is MOH in one of the other weddings and that girl (and her friends) are very flaky and I'm sure would never plan this far in advance. Where as, I'm known for having vacations planned a year in advance and my friends/family know this about me and expect it ahaha.

No, I think by 4 months out they should probably know. I'd just give them a deadline (maybe 3 months out) to respond.

View Quoted Comment Girl we’re like planning twins hahah I’m the same way, I like things planned in advance. Also thank you! It’s so nice to hear about someone else’s similar timeline!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I feel less bride-dilla-y 😂 I agree I’ll tell them they need to rsvp by the 3 month mark! Thank you!

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Haha yes it is! I asked my girls this morning if they wanted me to just let them know as things come along (like when to buy their dresses) or did they want a detailed timeline now.

They all requested a detailed timeline now so they can budget and plan ahead. I honestly would appreciate that if I were a bridesmaid!

I love to plan everything in advance. My FH thinks I'm crazy but whatever! haha.