Bachelorette party

Whoever the bride wants invited to the bachelorette can be invited. Sometimes that involves mothers, sometimes it doesn't. It depends a lot on what type of party you're having. Most people would be more inclined to invite their mom to a sip and paint party vs a strip club.

The purpose of a shower is to "shower" the bride or the couple with gifts. People also mingle, play games, and eat, but it is primarily a gift giving event. As far as wedding gifts go, most people do give wedding gifts, however, the primary function of a wedding is not to receive gifts. Most people give cash or check gifts at weddings as opposed to a physical gift.

Hey Jaimie!!

Caytlyn really hit the nail on the head here! The guest list for your bachelorette party is entirely your decision. Do you know what the plans are for your bach party yet? Would you like your mother to attend? If you would like her to attend part of it, perhaps you could plan an afternoon event so that she can be involved. That way she doesn't feel like she has to go with you and your bridesmaids to the club if neither of you is comfortable with that!

View Quoted Comment Ya I think I will just stick to the bachelorette party.

1. Mine wasn't. Sometimes, it just depends on what you do at the bach & if the bride wants her there.

2. The main purpose is to "shower the bride with gifts" at the bridal shower. For me, it was a fun pre-wedding celebratory event that was festive and got our female guests together prior to the wedding to mingle.

3. We got mostly physical gifts at the shower, then cash in the wedding cards. This is pretty typical for our friend/family group to do gifts for both events.

I would definitely advise against inviting mothers to the bachelorette party. Instead, the moms really can take the reins in planning and running the bridal shower with the maid of honor. Really the only purpose of the shower is for the women, especially the people important to the mothers, gather and open gifts. It's an older tradition that seems important to mothers, where the bachelorette party is more for the bridesmaids.

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My bachelorette party was trip to Disney to go to Epcot food and wine festival. MY mom, grandma, and aunt went with me to the park to enjoy the day(my maid of honor couldn't make the trip but did join us for dinner at Disney springs the night before with all of us). My mom made us matching shirts to wear! So depending on what's planned invite who you want. As far as a bridal shower we had a joint wedding shower so our families could met for the first time before the wedding. My wedding is small with about 45 people so we invited everyone who was invited to the wedding, mostly everyone showed up the shower. We didn't expect any gift but a few family member gave little things. We played games and had yummy food, It was a lot of fun and my family decorated everything well. My shower was Alice in wonderland theme. My wedding is beauty and the beast theme( 12/14/19) I'm Disney obsessed if that's not obvious lol

I guess I did a shower because it was just another fun pre wedding event

That makes sense. I could care less about gifts I just don't want my family feeling obligated to buy more gifts because that is what you "should do". I'm thinking maybe a meal and games to get both families together and then bachelorett party with bridesmaids and friends.

Different regions have different etiquette on these things but where I'm from....

Bridal shower: Bride and groom register for items they need after they get married (household items, luggage for the honeymoon, etc). The bridal shower guests give a gift off the registry, play games and eat.

Bachelorette Party: A fun night out with bridesmaids and maybe other friends. Moms are optional invites. I don't know many people that invite their moms. Normally includes bar hopping, or some other activity the bride finds fun or relaxing

Wedding: In my area weddings typically cost between $100-$175 a person so it's proper etiquette that guests give that much in a card as a wedding gift. I know this isn't all regions that follow that etiquette. But for where I live its money for the wedding and the registry gifts are only for the shower.

Totally up to you about who comes to your bachelorette party. I'd say most brides don't include their moms, but you can if you want to.

Also I'm not having a bridal shower - I don't need more stuff, don't want to be the center of attention and be gushed over, my family and girlfriends live all over the country so the people I love most wouldn't be able to attend or would be really put out by having to go to that AND my wedding, and it just isn't me. I'm actually one of those people who feels guilty when gifted gifts because I hate having things I don't need and that just take up space. Also, my FH and I already live together and have most of what we need. In the past wedding gifts used to be a lot of things to start a home with, but nowadays many couples co-habitate before marriage so cash is more common than physical objects. So I'm skipping a shower and hoping we get mostly cash gifts for the wedding. We aren't planning on a honeymoon right now because the wedding itself is so expensive, but if we got cash gifts we might be able to do that, which means so much more to me than having some bridal pajamas or a new toaster oven. I'd rather get cash then nothing and rather get nothing then stuff we don't need. I mostly just want our most loved ones to celebrate a special day with us.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree. I had a very hard time making a registry list. My family also lives in another state so I don't want them having to fly out yet AGAIN for a party.