Bachelorette party 😬

I am in a very similar situation - my close friend decided to schedule her wedding for a week before mine (it's become a whole thing - she likes to make everything a competition.) I declined being her bridesmaid because I was worried about the financial burden and being able to take a bunch of time off for her wedding, which is on a Friday with a Thursday rehearsal. I invited her to my local bachelorette party, and she did attend, but I politely declined going to hers which was in NOLA and would have been way out of budget. I sent gifts for her lingerie shower with her MOH and had her buy a bottle of champagne on my behalf so my friend would know I was thinking about her, but I have zero regrets about not dropping that much money on a trip so close to my own wedding.

Hey Emily!! I’m sorry that you are having to make this decision. You are both obviously close so hopefully in discussing this won’t be too difficult. You are both in the same situation so I imagine she will totally understand where you're coming from.

The best thing that you can do is to talk to her about the financial strain that this would put on you during this time. She is going through the same thing so I’m sure she will be open to your point of view.