Bachelorette party

You only get those parties if someone offers to throw it for you. If your MOH can't or doesnt' want to, that's totally fine. I wouldn't throw one yourself.

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Agree with this. Pre-wedding parties are optional. If no one offers to host one for you, skip it.

Maybe I am the minority here, but I think if it is important to you, do it! Even if its just something small like inviting your friends to dinner and drinks!

Not everyone is comfortable or able to plan parties. The good news is that you will be just as married without any pre-wedding parties as with them.

That said, of course you can invite your closest friends to spend time with you, just like you would at any other time not wedding related. There's no reason to make it expensive or complicated. Just pick a date and an activity and ask your friends if they would like to join you.

Technically, you aren't supposed to throw one yourself. It's something someone offers to do. But I also think it sucks to miss out on your one chance just because someone else decides not to do it, while other brides get to enjoy the fun. Some people don't know the bridal party is supposed to plan it, so you can at least ask them if something is planned so you don't "double book" that time slot.

I just asked my MOH if she wanted to plan one and she took it from there. I am not one to assume just cuz it’s someones tradition or what’s expected. If you haven’t talked about it she may not even know that you want one. If she doesn’t want to do one for you at least you know for sure and it’s not a guess. Life is too short not to communicate. But that’s my two cents hon.

I feel like if you want to have one, then have one. It doesn't have to be a big extravagant trip weekend or anything. If no one has mentioned anything, I would just ask all your girls if they want to go out one night and grab dinner and drinks or whatever. You don't have to even label it as bachelorette party if you didn't want to. You never have to have a reason to go out and have a good time with your friends in my opinion. Do what you want- who cares what anyone else believes.

I'm not having any bridesmaids but was definitely planning on having a little bachelorette party for myself. Probably just brunch or dinner/drinks. I don't think there's anything wrong with hosting it yourself.

Honestly, if you want one throw one. I know that in my case often, and especially with wedding planning, I forget that people cant read my mind. I think the hard part is there are so many customs and traditions and so much etiquette that surround weddings that it feels like there's only one way that things can be done. And while sometimes it sucks when things don't go the way you hoped, you still have the chance to change that. Anyway, the best part about planning your own bachelorette is you can do exactly what you want!

I’ll throw a thought out there. Is it possible that it’s totally a surprise? Some people do throw them without the bride’s knowledge. Anyway, outside of that, you can have a girls night without calling it a bachelorette party. There’s nothing with throwing that for yourself.

With 20 days until the wedding it is much too late for a bridal shower. And I agree that you can’t throw a gift giving party for yourself. But there is nothing wrong with getting your group of girls together for a night out. Start talking to the people you’d want to come (including your maid of honor) and see if they’re free to go out. I wouldn’t expect them to pay for you but there is absolutely no reason you can’t plan a night out.

I would have an open convo in person or on the phone about having something . If people are coming in from out of town you could do something a day or two days before wedding

View Quoted Comment I think this is kind of harsh... It's your wedding, you should get to have one! Maybe you could subtly suggest it to one of your bridesmaids or someone you're close to to hint to your MOH about it? Or you could tell her/him yourself. I know my MOH had no idea what was expected of him until we went through it together!

Dude if you want a bachelorette party then tell your MOH that you need to know if she's throwing one or not. If she's not or hadn't planned on it, then politely tell her that you're going to plan one and then do it. You probably should have mentioned or hinted about one before you got so close to your wedding though!

View Quoted Comment You would just not have a bachelorette party if no one offered to throw it for you..?

View Quoted Comment Right. I think it’s kind of tacky to throw a party to celebrate yourself.

View Quoted Comment It is normal to have a bridal shower up to two weeks before the wedding.

View Quoted Comment I personally wouldn’t skip a once in a lifetime milestone event for fear of being tacky, so that is surprising to hear And having wedding reception is throwing a party to celebrate yourself... but sounds like we just have differences in the way we look at it.

View Quoted Comment The reception is a thank you to your guests for attending the ceremony. I don’t typically throw parties for myself, I guess it’s just a matter of manners in my opinion.

It's not a requirement for your maid of honor to do anything other than be there on your wedding day. I'm sorry youre disappointed. That stinks. Even so, I personally wouldn't throw a bachelorette party for myself.

You're having a bridal shower so that's still something!