Bachelorette party/bridal shower

I don’t think a shower would be appropriate here. A shower is to shower the bride with gifts to help set up her new married life. If you’ve been married 30 years like your profile says then you don’t need any gifts to start out your life together. As far as the bachelorette party, you aren’t a bachelorette but if you want to get your friends together for a girls night I think that’s fine.

I've never heard of a shower or bachelorette for a vow renewal, so she probably is just thinking that wouldn't happen since you already got married. I would just bring it up to her you'd like a girls night maybe?

A shower is not really appropriate for a vow renewal. You're already married, and you chose to elope which generally means you choose not have these kinds of parties. If she offers to throw you a shower it is fine to accept I guess, but it's not something you get unless someone offers.

Bachelorette parties and bridal showers are for single women and brides. Since you’re married, you aren’t either of those things. I understand that you feel that you missed out on those experiences, but that’s a sacrifice that you make when you elope.

Thank you to all. I didn't see it in that way, but it makes perfect sense.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, Mrs. D for you suggesting a girls night out. Even though it makes sense that those events aren't meant for vows renewal, I still think having a get together is a nice gesture. Best wishes.