Bachelorette related: Would you rather…

I've also considered suggesting that my sisters rent a house in the Hudson Valley for all of us to split for the weekend. But I really, really hate the idea of asking people to spend so much money on me.

I would personally prefer option 1, because it will allow people to take their time to travel back on Sunday. Now, I don't know your crowd, but it is a bachelorette we are talking about so people may get drunk. And if you have the shower on Sunday, people might be at a shower hungover.

I would rather have the shower during the day and then the bachelorette that night. I think it's always best to have a day to decompress after the bachelorette.

#1 I'm going to say the same thing as Delisa people may be tired and/hungover and not want to do a shower Sunday

You're being a very considerate bride, which I have the most respect for!

I would prefer the 12-3 shower on Saturday then go out at night...

Are there not any "downtown" places in CT? (I've never been to that coast, so really i don't know....lol).

Or if you want to go to NYC, maybe take the train into the city (is that a possibility?) and stay the night in NYC so you don't have to worry about going back to CT after a night of partying..girls' slumber party actually sounds fun. Then everyone can book their flights from NYC back home..

NYC first, that way you can fly in NYC and be done with travel for the day. Do the bars/dinner that night and then Sunday the shower.

OR just decided on one place to have both. I think that would be best.

I had a lot of people coming in for my shower, so I had my bridesmaids coordinate for the weekend, too. My bachelorette party was an all day kind of thing on Saturday (11-9), and my shower was a brunch on Sunday. It was perfect for people to take the first flight in on Saturday, and fly out Sunday evening. I couldn't imagine having done a shower early with a bachelorette party at night - I got 8 hours of sleep on Saturday night and the shower still left me wiped out by 4!

I agree that the afternoon shower followed by bachelorette party would be best. As long as everyone has a place to stay in NYC (I'm guessing your place?), the dual locations shouldn't be an issue depending on where everyone is flying into and out of. We went to Atlantic City from a bridal shower near Philadelphia for one of my friend's bachelorette parties and I don't think it was a big deal to anyone.

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Thanks! I am concerned about a Sunday shower with hangover.

I live in NYC as do the majority of my friends, but I'm trying to think of the best way for the out of towners to handle all this. Everyone brings up good points, so I have a lot to think about. The biggest problem is the location of the shower, to be honest. I wish my FMIL could just host it in NYC but I have no idea where she could--my apartment is too small and restaurants would be too $$$. Argh!