Bachelorette weekend wondering

Congratulations!

I recently had my bachelorette party in Playa del Carmen and all 7 of my girls attended. 1 is my sister, 3 are cousins and the other 3 are my best friends. To be honest I had a lot of family going so most were really looking forward to seeing everyone and spending time together. I think what also helped with getting people there is that we all booked together. Also, most are moms that couldn't wait to get away from their kids for a weekend, LOL jk.

However, I am going to Nashville for party #2 and I don't expect all of my bridesmaids to attend. Out of 7 I think 3-4 will go. This party is more for the people that couldn't make it to Mexico.

6 out of my 9 came, and one of those 6 came one day late. The other 3 couldn't afford to fly to CA.

All of my bridesmaids were able to go, but it was debatable at points. A few of them weren't sure if they would be able to make it because of financial issues. I think its a personal decision if you want to make sure all of them can make it for the party or just continue with your plans and whoever can make it. I'm sure they will understand either way.

So I have 2 MOHs, and 7 BMs. I tried DESPERATELY for the better part of 7 months to find a weekend that worked for everyone. After getting very frustrated, I sent a text just asking when people were NOT available, and worked back. I found one weekend that everyone ( all 9 bridesmaids, and the handful of friends I invited as well) was free. The only hitch is it starts on one MOHs mom's birthday. After discussing it with her, she said she was okay with me doing it without her. We are driving 5 hours away to my other MOHs house for the weekend.

Honestly at first I was really frustrated. I've known her mom since we were 9 and we were best friends through the childhood/teenage years and I am sure her mom wouldn't be upset, but I let it go ( to be honest, we've had a lot of problems with her not being involved). Then I had another BM and a friend both tell me that they couldn't make it.

When we first discussed the date in July they were all for it, but when we made the date official ( early Sept for a bach trip Nov 1st-3rd), they said they couldn't make it.

I have one other BM who is currently dealing with a lot of issues involving a sick pet, and a move 6 hours south of her current home/vet office. If she can make it, she will, and if not I TOTALLY get it.

I was really upset that I worked so hard to get everyone there, and some are still not going, but I am feeling better about it now. I know the girls that come are going to be a great time, and after the bridal shower (in March) we are going out to dinner and drinks in town as a sort of "make up bach party" for anyone that didn't go to Louisville for any reason.