Bachelorette Weekend?

I don’t believe your asking too much at all.. me and my bridesmaids are going to drive down to Panama City beach for a whole weekend and they’re going to pay their ways. The bachelorette is all about something you want to do anyway.. they should be happy with spending a few days with you.

It is asking too much when you expect them to pay and give you presents. This is why the bride should not be in charge of her own bachelorette party because it is expected everyone else will pay for her. If you want to have a fun weekend with the girls then just call it that and pay for yourself and let them know the cost to share the expenses if they want to join you. But don't expect them to pay for things for you unless it is their idea.

I would just make sure it is in everyone's budget. Or see what people are willing to pay and if its something you really want to do, you may have to cover extra. My FSIL just did this and the person planning it did not ask anyone their budget and it ended up costing WAY more than I bargained for. I still did it cause in the end it was for the bride, but I wasn't pleased that no one asked budget.

View Quoted Comment That's the thing, I'd pay for my part myself. I don't want anyone to pay for me. So it'd just be their part of the weekend. We'd split the food, and the cabin cost. Everyone else would pay for their own drinks and their own extras, like if we rent a kayak or something like that.

It really depends on your friend group. Eight of us total flew from various parts of the country to Tampa to spend the weekend at an Airbnb near Clearwater. I paid for my plane ticket but that’s it. They took care of games and party favors and a few silly gifts, the accommodations and my drinks/food while I was out.

And no I didn’t plan it myself my MOH basically asked me where I wanted to go, I said the beach and she reached out to all my bridesmaids and friends that I wanted to invite and came up with several option for me to choose from.

I did the same for the bachelorette parties of those who came that were already married and I would do it for anyone else that gets married in the future. If this is something you’re friends have done before I wouldn’t think it’s asking too much.

I agree though that you can’t plan your own. So I would only suggest this if someone is offering to plan it for you.

I just went to a bachelorette party like this. I would definitely check budgets with your girls & include everything: gas, alcohol, food, cabin fee, activities during camping, everything. Since it is YOUR idea, perhaps pitching to pay for everyone for 1 thing " Hey, dinner is on me on Saturday" or something may help ease any frustration that may arise. Definitely DON'T TAKE AWAY from your MOH'S plans. She probably already has something fantastic planned for you.

I was the same way. We rented a house and went on a wine tour the following day. I thought asking two nights from everyone was too much since a lot of my friends are Mothers, but one of my MOH ended up asking people for the whole weekend anyway and people RSVP’d yes! My BMs started planning 6months in advance. People said having that much notice helped a lot.

View Quoted Comment Thankk you that helps a lot! I think having enough time to plan and save accordingly would help everyone a lot.

View Quoted Comment That is very true. I don't want to ruin any ideas she has planned. She asked me what I would want to do and she's not from around my area so she asked me where some good cabins would be.

I would have your MOH talk to the girls and see what their budget is, and what they are hoping on spending. It differs for every wedding. We are going to Palm Springs for a weekend, renting a house then doing some other stuff. I'm paying my portion (I didn't think it was fair not to) so each girl is spending around $400 with lodging, drinks & food. That's before travel and whatever matching tshirt I'm sure my MOH will pick out. But they all are totally okay with it and on board. I was in a wedding last year, each girl paid around $200 for one night in a hotel. I've had friends pay around $1,000 each and some just pay for dinner. I've never heard of giving the bride presents at the bachelorette party though. So I think she needs to ask them to see first!