Bachelorette

I personally don’t think it’s rude to ask them to chip in and participate. However if they respond with they are not comfortable paying a certain amount for whatever reason you need to be okay with it if they can’t go.

The best way to go about it is to typically ask each person if they are interested in attending the bachelorette party and what their budget is for it. Then plan accordingly.

I would ask everyone what they’re comfortable spending and how the want to do accommodations if it’s out of town. I’d rather pay extra money and have my own room/share with one person than share a hotel room with 6 other people.

Ask everyone individually in advance what their budget is or what they are comfortable spending. It’s only to rude to make plans without their input and then assume they will contribute to something they had no input on.

It’s not your place to ask them anything. They decide what they are willing to able to spend and then it is split among them. That is why destination bachelorette parties are not everyone’s cup of tea. You have flights, rental cars, and a million other major expenses involved on top that they aren’t aware of or can even afford.

View Quoted Comment It is actually in our area that we are looking in. We all live in the same town and have talked about it but never came up with our final decision or plan.

I agree with the others that you should first ask for everyone's affordability but for the whole party. - not just the lodging (food, drinks, activities, etc). Then find a place accordingly.
Heads up on Airbnb's, make sure you're calculating from the TOTAL, not just the per night on the listing. The fees and taxes on top of that can really increase the price when you go to reserve.

View Quoted Comment I know for me, I wouldn’t want to pay to stay in the same area I live, unless absolutely necessary. Can you all stay at someone’s house/apt and have a girls night without the extra spending on lodging?


I agree with others in general. You need to know their budgets before booking anything

Are you planning this for yourself? I agree ask budget but they may feel pressure to please you if you're the one getting married. Usually someone else plans the bachelorette, making it easier for people to discuss budgets and plans etc.

Nope, not at all. I've never been to a bachelorette party where I didn't pay my own way. I think it's customary to pay for yourself in fact. But if you're wanting a hotel room, I'd definitely get more than 1 room for 7 girls.

You should sit down and ask everyone how much they can afford for each piece of the wedding including the bachelorette party. If everyone can afford it, they each should pay their way but be prepared in case someone cannot make it or can't afford it.