Back and Forth - Small or Big

I wanted a relatively smaller wedding because that way you have more time to actually interact with those people. Instead I ended up with a big 250 person wedding and it could get overwhelming at times but at the same time it’s nice to see so many people come out to celebrate you. However I will say that you don’t get to spend much time with anyone at all when it’s that large of a wedding

I always wanted small and intimate (no more than 10). I knew I wasn't getting the "SMALL" because my FH has 3 married siblings with 2 children (older) each and a cousin like a sister (so basically 4 married siblings and children). So at best it would always be about 30 people. We did decide to add some personal / close friends and now have a total of 45 (including us). It feels right and at the end of the day if some of those don't make it, I'm OK with that too. For us personally, we don't want gifts, we don't want anything other than those that can join us to be there and celebrate with us.

It's a personal decision and you just do what "feels" right for you and your FH

We don't live where our families live (400 miles to the closet family), so we're really looking forward to celebrating with each individual at the wedding. For us, that means a smaller guest list because we want those special moments with each individual person. If we lived locally or at least closer, we probably would have gone for a 200 person list.

Ours is no more than 50 people. We had to make som tough decisions and deal with my mother being overbearing about who we need to invite on my side. I kept having to explain that me and my FH want a small wedding and we weren't going to pay extra for the next package. It was really frustrating but it worked itself out. We didn't want the cost of a big wedding and wanted just close family. It's really all up to what you prefer as a couple and how big the families are.

I always envisioned having a wedding surrounded by family and friends so from there we made our guest list. We invited 150 and had about 100 guests attend. This is totally a personal decision though. I would recommend making a guest list of who are must haves at your wedding and that will greatly determine what type of wedding you will want.

At first we had a 92 person wedding booked at 7800 (not including the DJ, photographer, just for the venue food n alcohol 7800). Then COVID19 hit n we had to think, what do we want more? To postpone or get married now. We chose to marry may 16 and paid 250 for an elopement in an outdoor garden, 360 for catering, 100 for alcohol, and 35 for table cloths & fancy plastic utensils/plates/cups. And had only 7 guests. I found the wedding with 7 guests was more intimate, more fun, less drama and more personal. If I could go back, I'd originally choose a smaller wedding because even almost 3 weeks after getting married I dont regret how we chose to get married. It was amazing. Def decide if it matters which guests you want or no.

We’re keeping it intimate at 30 PP including ourselves...
Really just a good playlist, we may do cake cutting...not so sure about dances. We’re not asking anyone to give formal roasts. We really want people to just interact and talk casually, we really don’t want to be the center of attention.