Bad idea-- getting engaged the same time as a friend

I am on a emotion overload and need opinions Stat! I recently got engaged and so did my friend and her fiance, since the engagement everything has felt like a competition. She even had a fit when and how we got engaged bc he asked me when we were on vacation at the beach and that's how she was asked but to be clear my dad ruined my finances original idea bc he's terrible with secrets so my fiance went to plan b which was our pre planned vacation. She commented on my engagement post causing a scene. Ever since then a giant wedge was placed. Like I have any say in how I'm proposed to? We managed to work through this and I forgave her for all the sour treatment. I wanted to avoid at all costs us planning these weddings at the same time to avoid the drama again. She said she would be getting married 2 years from now once done with college so I picked out a venue (paid for it), bought my dress, got my bridesmaids together (one of which she was supposed to be), and of course set the date a couple months back. Now all of a sudden she's is setting her date 2 weeks before mine. I feel like my enjoyment for my proposal was stolen and now my wedding. I do not want to look back 10 years from now and be remembering all this negativity. Now I have to try and plan around hers to make mine work which is what I was trying to avoid and on top of that everything has became a competition of who does what first and who got engaged first and people are even starting to notice and ask me if we are I'm competition with each other - people I don't even talk to. For example we had our engagement shoot done and posted and she posts her proposal photos and said they were her engagement photos the same day as me which had alot of people questioning..... so far this experience has been awful and I regret it all except of course marrying the love of my life.


Has anyone else dealt with this or am I just crazy?or am I just crazy?