Ball and chain-Vent

FH was in a group chat with his (former) "friends" and I guess they forgot and all texted about how he's ruining his life and I'm not good enough to give up the single life for. Took them 20 mins to figure out he was in that chat. Anyway point being, people suck haha.

My FH calls me his old lady sometimes. He got it from his dad, he was in a MC and they called their SO "my old lady" or "my old man". I personally love it because I think it's cool and I'm used to it.

Our friends also refer to me as his old lady.

DH has a coworker who introduces his wife as his “first wife.” He’s only ever been married to her. They’ve been married like 20 years. We think it’s hilarious. At the same time, we know not everyone shares our humor, so we would never make comments like this about someone else’s relationship.

I actually had my father in law who was betting on the fact that we would never make it to the wedding and always "joked" (not so f**king funny) that I wasnt an 'insert family name here' yet and that there was still time for my husband to leave.

It was aggravating, even more so that it was coming from soon to be family, but don't let it get to you. Just stay focused on your relationship and the huge task of planning a wedding that is ahead. Congrats!

What's funny are the jokes when you aren't married and still single. Especially as you start getting older. Seems like there is never a happy medium. It's sad when your single and sad when your getting married.

I had a guest (mid40s man w coworkers) at my bar one day tell his friends "not to tell 'The Hag'". I was so offended for her!!!!!...these phrases are such a common thing that it makes me sick.

But I guess it's really nothing to stress over. In the grand scheme of things, it's no big deal. I feel like FH would never call me that so I'm not going to fret.

Ignore them, they'll shut up.

I actually got my then-FH the game over shirt because I thought it was hilarious...because he's a gamer. Not once did I actually think his carefree life of leisure was ending by marrying me.

There's an older man I work with who is currently on his fourth marriage. All throughout my engagement I was constantly told by him 'it's not too late to leave' or 'run away while you can!' It's rude and annoying. Ignore them to the best of your abilities.

I agree with everyone; it's annoying but some people don't understand what they're saying when they say things

this reminds me of the wedding topper of the bride dragging the groom. I have also seen toppers of the bride and groom, and the groom has the ball & chain on his ankle

Oh yeah...let's see, my mom's doctor (a woman) who lives in another state and had never met me asked "why would she do that and ruin her life?"

My FH first asked if I'd marry him a full year before he proposed. He told his father who asked "why do you think it will work this time?" He was previously married. Same FFIL asked him--in front of me--if "the last one" was as expensive as this one. SMH.

Once, I was at a resort in MX where there was a wedding, and as the bride walked down the aisle, some guy yelled "hey buddy, I see a boat out there...you can still swim and get away!" Can you imagine?!

As for the ball and chain comments, etc, I think usually people think they're being funny. And have this camaraderie around it. A lot of people complain about being married because it's the acceptable thing. A lot of those people are married though and probably wouldn't have it any other way.

We had the opposite issue: my hubby is 52, married for the first time and people were like: "FINALLY, DUDE!!!" lol! Just ignore the verbal volleys - people think they are so funny.....and they are not. I for one do not like those signs that ring bearers carry that say "Not too late to run!!!"

I had one of my FH aunts tell me not to stress "you only get married once... or five or six times." I know she meant it as a joke but I did not find it funny. Sometimes people say things that extremely distasteful.

Agree with @Celia. Keep an emotionless face, other than perhaps a blink of the eyes.

I think it's all in fun. I tease that I'm his old lady all the time. And his response is always that he loves his old lady.

I wouldn't say it's an older person thing. My parents, or any of my older relatives or friends, have never referred to their spouse that way. However, I've had a lot of younger people ask me why I want to get married or vent that marriage is miserable. I just ignore it because I know that whatever views they have on marriage doesn't affect mine.