BAM cold feet before wedding???

So you have zero doubts about your relationship or him being the one, right?

If not, I think it's perfectly normal to be nervous about the ceremony! I get married right after you. I'm not nervous, I'm just super emotional. I cry at the drop of a hat. (happy cry) but still, alot of crying.

@Jamie zero doubts about him, just didn't know if this feeling is normal or not.

It goes by so quickly you won't even have time to worry. Get yourself organized and have a backup plan. The week of my wedding everything was going bad. I was so tired of the planning that I sat down and told myself "fudge it" there's no need to worry about minor details just roll with the punches. The day of my wedding, my hairdresser didn't show up I was calling since 7am and no answer, I didn't get myself worked up I started to search at 10am for someone else. My cousins never showed up to help my mom decorate the church so my poor mom was stuck with 200 roses and a bunch of tulle so, I started decorating the church while I waited for my hair dresser to show up. I was late for my makeup artist so, I had her start with my mom till I got there with my maid of honor. The MUA spent 2 hours on my moms makeup alone so, I ended up doing my own makeup. What got me through the day was my focus on getting married to my husband. I saw it all as an obstacle to conquer....and it was worth it! I just got my pics back and it makes me so happy to have shared my special day with the people I love.

@Gonefishes I'm sorry that happened to you. That's another thing that makes me nervous. Like I'm already expecting things to not go as planned but that makes me even more panicked, trying to figure out what's going to be ok and what's not. Ugh I just want this to be over already and go straight to living married life with my FH. Poor guy he is so excited and ready for the big day and all I can feel is dread, but I keep most of that feeling to myself. Don't need him thinking I'm rethinking the marriage itself instead of the wedding ceremony.

Lanelle - I think it is 100% normal. I'm a bit freaked out that I'm NOT nervous, because I feel like I should be.

It will be here so quickly, and pass just as fast. And when it's said and done, you will be married.

Try to think of it that way, hopefully that will help a bit? Good luck and best wishes!

@Jamie that's what's got me thus far. Hopefully everything works out for the best.

Thanks.

I got married 2 weeks ago. I definitely was a bundle of nerves before. It was never a question of him...just anxiety over how the day would come out.

The second I saw him at our first look, nothing else mattered. The day could have been a disaster and I wouldn't have cared as long as the marriage license got signed.

I did. Totally went through the "am I doing the right thing!" I have been married before and wondered if this was truly what I should be doing. I no longer feel that way.

I get anxious about it a lot. However, I don't think everyone is the same in needing to have "no doubts" for the marriage to work. I think to be nervous is a very normal and mature response to the commitment for forever. It acknowledges that you take the commitment seriously and cannot anticipate what is to come in the other areas of life. I have friends who got married with a lot of doubt and have been married upwards of 10-20 years. I also have friends who were "so sure" it was right at the time and liked to lecture other people on how the cold feet feelings couldn't possibly be an okay thing. They are since divorced. I am happy for the people who feel so sure and don't have any doubts. I'm naturally an anxious person and I like planning. I won't be able to plan my life and how it will play out. But the important thing to know is that they are the person that you want to be there with you for all of the good, bad and ugly. Everyone is different and I wouldn't let your emotion totally overwhelm you (if you can help it:.. I have a hard time). Marriages don't only succeed because of passion or a lack of "cold feet". They will succeed due to honesty and communication. I talked with my FH about how I was feeling and he was very reassuring. It was helpful for us to both talk about our concerns and realize they are valid and okay to have

I think the nerves are normal. I had zero nervousness until about noon on the day of (4:30 ceremony). Once my hair was done, I suddenly felt shaky and nauseated. I had my MOH break out the champagne. 2 glasses of that and after our first look with DH and I, and I felt much calmer.

I was nervous about the day and everything going right, but no issues with my husband. I think it's normal--there are just so many details and people you haven't seen in a long time combined with stress. I also had family stressing me out about the guest list/seating chart and was worried about dealing with that drama.

I got married this past Saturday. Last week was the WORST!!! I was so anxious (also never about him) and I wanted to barf and cry alllll the time. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep. The rehearsal on Friday was a disaster and I was convinced the wedding would be too. I got 3 hours of s,eep the night before my wedding. When I woke up Saturday morning though....I was calm and at peace. I couldn't care less if the day was a disaster, I chose to enjoy it and I did! Let yourself feel the emotions and don't be too hard on yourself. Don't read into the feelings too deeply or dwell. Once you see him at that altar....oh man. It will be awesome! Good luck!!!! : )

My venue crashed into a dock and crushed 3 cars... I was stressed behind belief, but our families and wedding party were calling airlines to get us to a new honeymoon spot pronto if we didn't sail. And had planned on demanding a ceremony on board regardless.

So no cold feet. Only reafirmed I married a wonderful man with a wonderful family.

I was nervous about the weather for our outdoor wedding, but not anything else. Wasn't worried about actually marrying this man at all.

I am still a year out and wonder if I am doing the right thing.. though it is more my family in my ear instead of my heart and head. My FH ie diagnosed with bipolar so they keep telling me I am making a decision to be there through the bad...hospital stays and epsiodes... but I don't care. As long as you are sure of your relationship cold feet thoughts are normal... but only you will know if it is more than that.