I've seen a few forums on WW related to the topic of joining bank accounts, but was curious if anyone shared their account prior to getting married?
My fiancé and I live together and have shared money for some time, using Venmo. We aren't getting married until September but have decided to go ahead and merge our accounts. I'm really excited for that step but am afraid he's going to freak out when he sees the money I have been spending on the wedding.
When we got engaged, we didn't really discuss a budget. Over the holidays, when his family asked about the wedding, he seemed to think it was a lot cheaper than it is LOL. I'm paying for the wedding myself with some help from my parents, so he was never really filled in on the amount we were spending. After the holidays, I had to break it to him that we were spending more than he realized. He then got a little more involved in planning and has willingly paid for several things. Some of the vendors I chose before this are a little pricey and I've already paid them deposits + payments for some. I'm totally okay with the price tag on all of my vendors.
I obviously won't be able to hide the amount I'm putting into the wedding when our accounts are joint - not that I'm "hiding" anything now, I just don't tell him every penny spent unless he just asks. Should I suggests we wait until we're married to join?
Before anyone comes for me, I have budgeted a comfortable amount of money from my salary that I'm willing to spend on the wedding before this topic was ever discussed. I'm not spending more than I'm financially comfortable with, or putting us out by spending this money. I'm just worried he will have a small cow if he physically can see this money coming out of our account for one day.