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Kelly
Dedicated August 2021

Beach Wedding Necessity?

Kelly, on July 27, 2021 at 9:52 AM Posted in Planning 0 5
So the future in-laws brought an idea to us last night. They heard from a friend of a friend about using paint brushes to brush sand from your feet after the beach ceremony. And while that's great, our wedding is in a month. We have plenty to do to get ready. And I've already spent a lot on little extra touches. And our wedding is at a Hilton with a beautiful, newly renovated pier, which has several foot washes, both stationary and with removable showerheads. So I'm not overly concerned. And I don't have time to DIY cute little paint brush buckets and signs, etc... I work two jobs, I go to the gym six days a week, and I have plenty left to do.



So is it wrong I tried to politely tell them it sounds like a great idea, but not for us? And then when they kept pushing, telling me I could do it for $40 or so, I pushed back harder. And still said no.
Had they brought this to me six months ago I'd have been more amenable.
Or if they wanted to do the work or buy them.
Am I being a brat here?

5 Comments

Latest activity by Jm Sunshine, on July 27, 2021 at 11:11 PM
  • Jessi
    Super October 2022
    Jessi ·
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    I don't think you're being a brat at all! There's nothing wrong with them mentioning it to you, but once you said no thanks they should've dropped it. Good for you for firmly standing your ground. Like you said, if they offered to put them together and spend the time that's one thing, but they can't demand you spend more time and money on something.

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  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    You are not being a brat. You have every right to say no to random little ideas. Honestly, they're the rude ones to keep pushing. If they keep pushing, I'd just say "It's a cute idea, but I really don't have the time or extra funds for this project. If you really want it, you can take it on." Honestly, as a guest, I'd probably use the footwashing station over the brush anyway.
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  • I
    Expert August 2021
    Ingrid ·
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    You are not being a brat. If you don't have the time to incorporate this then you don't have time or bandwidth. My mom throws ideas as me all the time and some I like and some I flat out tell her No or I don't have time for that. She backs down or offers to do it for me (I trust her to do it how I would so that is not a worry for me). Stand your ground and keep it as an idea and if you end up having a little extra time then incorporate it.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    If they are so insistent they can pay for it. But you made your wishes clear and they are in the wrong by not acknowledging your wishes. Get used to setting and maintaining boundaries with fiancé now so that in laws and others don’t railroad you with other things after the wedding: where you live, where you work, when and where you spend holidays, how your kids are raised and when they visit and the list goes on.
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  • Jm Sunshine
    Jm Sunshine ·
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    If you like the idea but don't have time/money, you could just say: "That's a great idea! Unfortunately, I have run out of wedding funds and time at this point.". If they offer to do it, then by all means!
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