Bed and breakfast? Guests pay their own way?

Is it a requirement that guest stay in the B&B? If not I would not expect your guest to stay at that rate. Honestly I think that is pretty expensive, although I have not seen the rooms myself. I have heard of brides and grooms doing hotel blocks but usually they pay for that themselves.

View Quoted Comment Though it is not a requirement to stay there, we would have to pay for any unfilled rooms. If guests choose not to stay at the B&B, they would be unable to participate in the weekend events, and only take part in the ceremony and reception.

I wouldn’t pay almost $300 for a room at a bed and breakfast unfortunately.

Is it $275/night or for the weekend so $275 for two nights? 275/night is a lot and I would find other accommodations but for two nights I would pay that for sure.

Is it $275 per night? My fiancé and I have been in quite a few weddings over the last 2-3 years and it’s totally normal for guests to pay for their own lodging. However, $275 is pretty steep. In my experience the norm is about $100 per night. So overall $275 for the whole weekend it’s still kind of expensive but I suppose that depends on your guests budgets.

It woudk be $275 per night, but because of the price, we would only do one night. Our other option for a B&B is another local B&B that is $150 per night, but guests would have to share bathrooms.

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Why would they not be able to participate in all the weekend activities if they do not stay at the B&B? That is a lot to ask of guests and it would rub me the wrong way if I couldn't participate in the whole weekend if I cannot afford the B&B, or do not wish to spend that amount of money. If that is the price for the whole weekend, its one thing, but if it's for one night its a lot to ask people to spend.

Definitely not and I’m not on a real budget. That’s a no go for me.

View Quoted Comment I think it is the venues way of trying to get as many people as possible to stay on sight. They have enough rooms for 80 people, which is exactly what my wedding would be. The rooms are immaculate, all designed after a president who has stayed in each room. Its just that it quickly adds up to over $500 for the weekend for just lodging.

Our dream venue for our destination wedding (this is this Saturday ***yay***) was similar in price and requirement - so we crossed off our list. Is not fair to obligate your guests to stay at one expensive place just because you decided on their behalf that’s where they will
be booking for the weekend.
In my opinion you should not dictate where people stay and how much they pay. Keep
searching for a venue that will cost you X amount and don’t expect that to be covered by your guests.

It is standard for guests to pay for their own accommodations. However, normally they have the option to choose somewhere that fits their budget and are not required to stay in one place. I think that $275 is likely to be out of budget for at least some number of guests. If people think the B&B is too expensive, they might either decline to come or still come but end up resentful or hurt that they can't participate in all the activities.

I can see why you would want to have your wedding at a B&B! It sounds sort of risky though if you have to pay for the unused rooms as I sense some would balk at the cost and want to stay elsewhere. That being said, I'm not sure where you're from and where your guests would be coming from. In some areas of the country, $250 a night isn't unreasonable and in others, it is ridiculously expensive. Unless you were a very very close friend, I'd probably forego the $500 and find a less expensive place to stay!

As a guest I wouldn't pay over $500 for lodging to attend a wedding. Is this a DW? If not and some guests are local, they wouldn't even need a room, or certainly not for 2 nights.

View Quoted Comment That's way too many rooms to be responsible for. A B&B venue I really loved required two nights to be bought out and we didn't choose that venue because of it. And it was only 10 rooms. I didn't want to pressure people to stay there, and I wasn't willing to eat the cost. I would pass on this as a guest and a host.

If someone is staying overnight I’m sure they’d assume they’re responsible for the cost. However I’d never pay $275 for any hotel room and definitely not a B&B because I’m not into them at all. So your $150 option wouldn’t appeal to me either.

I'd say this is far from a perfect venue. You need to find a place that you can afford, without being subsidized by your guests. And regardless of whether $275 a night is expensive for the area, you're going to have at least some guests who would prefer to stay at the local Motel 6. You can't ask them to pay more in order to subsidize your costs.

I mean, I assume I’m responsible for the cost of where I sleep, but if I see there a $275 b&b option but right down the street there’s a decent hotel for $150, I’m choosing that.

If you choose this venue, you assume the cost of all the rooms. If people choose to stay there— that’s great! But you can’t make them, so you have to be prepared to cover the costs of the vacant rooms.

...also excluding someone from weekend “events” just because they didn’t want to stay at the fancy b&b is, quite frankly, rude.

Yeah, that seems really expensive even for very nice hotels or B&Bs in great areas and also a bit scammy on the part of the B&B. Not scammy, maybe, but not a great choice unless you can and are willing to pay for all the rooms.

I just saw your other post about Rosemont Manor, so I assume that’s it? I agree it’s really nice. I haven’t seen it in person but did research on it for work when I was researching places for small meeting locations, and the General Manager was very helpful. 😀 Still...you know your crowd...are they the type to spend just under $300/night for a country inn? For a wedding?

I wouldn't pay $275 to stay at a local bed and breakfast just so that I can sleep in a bed that's close to my own home and participate in whatever "events" you have planned for the weekend. I would stay at my own house for free and come to the ceremony and reception for free, minus the cost of the gift.