Best friend canceled wedding

I think you’ve done all you can do. It’s a bit disrespectful that she can’t at least respond to you with something especially if she knows you have already bought plan tickets. I guess you just have to wait.

Speaking as someone who has canceled their wedding, I definitely let my friends know--especially close friends--and followed up and at least offered reimbursement on certain things if needed. I think you're right to be patient, it can be a super traumatic experience for someone--for example, if she was cheated on--but I see your girlfriend's point--two months without any contact isn't respectful, especially when you factor in distance, time, money, cancelling work, rental car, hotel, plane tickets, hiring a pet or baby sitter (if applicable) etc. Again, you're clearly not probing for an explanation, but I would have felt weird had I not followed up with my closer friends (at least!) knowing that they were taking a lot of time and money to come to my wedding.

Just invite her to do something fun on your own or with a group of friends. That way you are reaching out but not trying to make it about the wedding cancellation. She may really need some distracting fun but too depressed and embarrassed to talk with anyone. Cut her a break and try to help her move on with life.

It seems like your friend is going through a difficult time. Continue to give her space and let her reach out when she's ready

Thanks, I think that's right. She's someone I care about a lot and we all have to help each other.

I think something awful happened and she likely needs time to recoup and recover. Your girlfriend needs to calm down in my opinion, it was cancelled with advanced notice and that's really all you ever need to know.

I think that you're right that she must not be ready to talk and just wants to push past it, so go with that and treat her like nothing happened. Text her about something that has nothing to do with "supporting her" or the wedding. If she's using social media, tag her in funny things. She probably has a TON of people reaching out about how sorry they are about whatever happened, she'd probably appreciate someone treating her normal.

I have a friend who cancelled her wedding about 6 weeks in advance. She just sent out a very short generic message that the wedding would not be held as planned. I immediately responded that I loved her and wished her the best. She took a couple months off contact, and then after a while, as others suggested, I interacted with her about "regular stuff." Our relationship continued as "normal," but with no mention of the wedding or circumstances. It was probably 9-12 months after the break-up that she finally, very briefly, mentioned it. It's been a few years now, and she just married someone else and is incredibly happy. The break-up wasn't even anything horribly traumatic, like cheating or abuse; from what she eventually shared, she just realized she was a lot more invested in the relationship than he would ever be and she finally decided she deserved better, and called it off. Even under those circumstances, she felt really awkward/embarrassed about calling it off and "inconveniencing" family & friends who had booked travel (it was a DW), bought wedding party attire, etc. She just couldn't face people and didn't want to have to answer questions. She definitely needed some time to come to terms and figure things out before she was ready to talk with even close friends about what happened. As others have suggested, continue to be a good friend and let her handle things on her own terms/timeline. Good luck!

My best friend broke up with her longtime boyfriend and refused to talk about it for like a month or so and finally she opened up about it when she was ready. People are ready to talk about things later on sometimes when they've been able to process it themselves

You definitely don't need more of the same advice, lol, but you seem like a really good friend and are doing the right thing by giving her space. I had a friend cancel a wedding recently too and she hasn't reached out lately--I did the same thing as you, just reached out initially and then let it go. She'll call when she's ready under her own terms--don't worry. Since you mentioned flying across the country it doesn't sound like you and her live in the same state, so probably would be hard for you to just get together. Just wait for her to make the first move--if it turns into like 6 months or something, then I would definitely reach out again, but she just needs time. You're totally fine.