Be prepared for a flood of people saying "none of the above". Take a minute to search honeyfunds on this site and you'll see why.
Don't create a registry if you want money. People will give you money anyway, and honeyfund sites take a fee from you or your guests and provide literally no other services other than handing you the money after taking a fee.
The Knot and Zola are the same cost (2.5%) to process credit cards. I know with Zola you can choose to put that 2.5% on you or you can make your guests pay 2.5% more (definitely don't do that). For example, if someone gives $50, you'll get $48.75.
Honeyfund has zero fee payment options and withdrawals and zero fees to guests. But charges 2.8% + $0.30 for immediate cash via WePay or PayPal.
I think all 3 allow you to connect your physical item registries to their sites. Zola also has physical items available, not just funds. I don't know if the other two do.
You'll get a lot of push back here for fund registries. I personally did one. There's definite pluses and minuses to them (traditional etiquette being the most major "minus"), but I think there's a reason they're becoming more popular. No one is forcing your guests to use one (and it's infinitely better than setting out a jar), but I set mine up to tell people the excursions and events my FH would use them for. They could choose to use it or not. We never expect gifts anyways.
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So you are okay being charged to collect your gifts...Okay? I don't think that's non traditional as much as it is financially irresponsible.
Why not register no where? People know that cash is always welcome.
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Non-traditional does not mean etiquette goes out the window. Etiquette is how you treat your guests. plenty of people here had or are planning “non-traditional” weddings and treated their guests very well and within etiquette guidelines. It shouldn’t be a point of pride to not follow basic etiquette.
I don’t really understand why people do this. We had no registry and almost all our guests (3 couples out of 60 gave physical gifts) gave us money. It was more than enough to pay for our honeymoon, but we had already paid for that so instead we used some of the money to put a pool in the backyard and the rest we invested.
And guess what? We didn’t have to pay any fees on our gifts.
We also already live together and have everything we need and don’t have room in our apartment for random gifts. I’m well away if basic etiquette, but maybe don’t tell me how to treat my family?. I asked what site was better. Not if it is rude to do a online honeymoon/nestegg/ send us on a date fund.
The responses about this drive me crazy. We are doing Honeyfund because in my circle of family and friends it is seen as more fun and celebratory to choose a restaurant or an excursion to "gift" than complying with an implicit encouragement to just give cash for the sake of "etiquette". I have given to several of my friends' honeyfunds and truly enjoyed seeing them on their honeymoon going ziplining or having a nice cocktail with the gift I gave.
These honeymoon registries are not just links to bank accounts. They outline the trip and excursions, and can be really cute and fun.
To the OP: I like the look of honeyfund. If you connect your venmo there is not PayPal up front charge.
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Everyone is just trying to save you from looking rude in front of your guests. Just don't register, same result as the honeyfund but 2.5% more cash in your pocket.
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Honeyfund is exactly like a link to a bank account. You understand that honeyfund gives the couple a check right? They don’t set up the trip/excursions and you’re under no obligation to go on any excursions you list? You don’t even have to use the money for a honeymoon if you don’t want to. You can take the money and pay your water bill.
Angelina, I'm going to use honeyfund. There's an option on honeyfund for people to print a certificate of the gift they will be giving you and then no one pays any fees and they put it in a card and give it to you. There's some people who just want to give you something not just cash, and this works perfect for them. My fiances sister did it and the whole family loved it and used it. Everyone on here will tell you not to but you know your family, they don't. My family personally thinks it's great and not tacky or rude. And if you decide to let them pay with credit card just choose the option where you pay the fee and they don't. Fees suck yes, but sometimes it is what it is. If this is the route that works for you go for it
Of course I understand that. But as a decent human being I am going to use the gifts for what I have outlined, and for what people have selected, and then make sure to let my friends and family know how much we enjoyed it.
That being said, the 2% fee (which you incur, not your guests) from linking paypal has not been a problem for me. We've had older couples (one in their 80s!) call us to say how much they enjoyed reading our planned itinerary and the opportunity to give us a night in one of the hotels we selected. We plan on sending anyone who contributes this way a photo of us in the location they gifted in their thank you note
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You can’t tell people not to comment. That’s against the CGs. Also, look up the definition of trolling, as no one is doing that here.
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You can’t tell people not to post. im not going to touch the “decent human being” comment. im assuming your honeymoon is no more than a month or so after the wedding. If that’s the case the payments will be due before the wedding. So you wouldn’t be able to use their cash specifically for the trip.