My husband chose his best man a year in advance, let's call him Steve.
Steve has known him since he was 2 years old; they don't talk on a regular basis, two or three times a year.
We texted Steve 9 days before the wedding to make sure that he'd taken care of his rental suit fitting. Steve replied and told us that he wouldn't be able to be in the wedding.
I was in tears, stressed, ready to quit. Disaster. BUT we did find a new best man last minute. Adam seemed significantly less effected by it, probably because he wasn't very involved in planning the event.
4 months later, Steve asks Adam to be his best man. Adam said yes and didn't tell me until later on.
My issues here: 1) If we hadn't texted him about the suit, would he have waited even longer to tell us? 2) No valid reason other than "I have to work". 3) He didn't apologize to me, just to Adam. He didn't even address me at all.
Do I have a right to be angry and want him to stay out of the wedding? I feel kind of betrayed.