Best man gets a haircut 4 days before the wedding....

While you might not be happy about it, you can't really tell him how to cut his hair. How does your fiancé feel about it? If it bothers him, he can try saying something to him, but at the end of the day it's his hair to do with what he wants.

You might not like it but you can't force someone to have their hair cut the way you want it for YOUR DAY. Yes it's your wedding day and it is a special time in your life but you need to realize that to everyone else even the people in the wedding it is just another day. I wouldn't expect my fiancé and his groomsmen to allow me to dictate the way they look right down to their hair. I would never tell my fiance and his friends what to wear and how to have their hair for our wedding that's not my place, my fiance is in charge of how him and the groomsmen look and if and only if he didn't like that they changed their hair that's up to him to say something not me. And if you think he got the mullet all because he thinks you're wedding is a joke then that's something your fiance needs to take up with him, and if you are right then maybe your fiance needs to rethink having him in the wedding.

It’s not your hair or your choice what he does with it.

It’s just his hair 🤷🏻‍♀️ Even if he gets a whole body tattoo, I wouldn’t care less.

Okay so I’m going to be the only one that supports you on this. I don’t blame you. These are pictures you have to look at forever. Hopefully after a while you’ll just be able to laugh at it. Maybe it’s just a joke and he’ll cut it off before your wedding 🤷‍♀️

Ugh guys! Sounds like he probably means it as a big joke and will change it before the weekend. Let him have his fun, get some shameful pictures at the rehearsal, and text him a picture of clippers letting him know you your dog came out looking great! Jk. But your FH can talk to him, as last resort, and say that you want to remember the day as he usually looks.
To the point of everyone else, no you should never dictate the appearance of your wedding party. However, this seems to be a situation where he chose this look BECAUSE it would annoy you, so it’s not the thing same as a friend coloring her hair / getting a spray tan / tattoo because of personal taste.

I think you are overreacting. It's his hair.

It does suck that the he did this before your wedding. Hopefully he'll have fixed by the wedding and this is an unfunny joke. If not Hopefully it won't be noticeable in pictures. Don't fixate on it. Your wedding is more important.

If he did it to annoy you guys, your FH may need to reevaluate this friendship lol. But honestly its just hair. He is not the groom and no one in the audience will even think twice about it. Personally I feel a hairstyle, even a mullet, is better than if he went and dyed his hair blue

Unless he's carved something offensive into his hair, this is not a problem.

It's his hair, his head, and no one will notice in the pictures, I promise.

Maybe he got it cut because he knew it would bug you? Some people think that adding stress to the bride and groom is funny (not sure why, but there you go). He may have just decided a mullet was what he wanted or he may cut it off before the wedding now he's made you angry/upset. Either way, you won't notice his hair in the pictures.

If it isn’t a joke (which it could be) you could get him a best man baseball cap or hat of some kind. Then for the ceremony/wedding photos you won’t see his mullet until the reception later. Sort of like in the show How I Met Your Mother when Marshall accidentally buzzed his head down the middle and wore a hat to cover it up 🎩

OMG! I am with you I would not be pleased at all if I was you! I hope for your sake that he gets it fixed before your wedding!

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Definitely agree with Liz on this! If he's never had a mullet before, and all of the sudden gets one 4 days before his best buddy's wedding...sounds like he's trying to "jokingly" stress the groom out. To me, if that's indeed what's happening, it seems really immature (if not downright mean). He could have made the same "joke" by texting "Dude, I think I'm gonna get a mullet today. You're cool with that, right??" Maybe he had grown his hair really long because of staying at home a lot.....and as an in-between step before cutting it short again....he got a mullet as a joke?

Don't fret about it. You look at the pictures with the best man like twice, Then they go to the bottom of the pile. They are not the ones yo put on the mantle. And this will be a hysterical story to tell the kids how Uncle Joe got a mullet for your wedding.

"What am I supposed to do."

This one is easy: you do nothing except focus on your wedding. There is nothing you can do about another person anyway, AND this won't matter at all on the day or in the big picture. Your marriage is about more than someone's hair, I promise.

Its his hair, sorry but kind of sounding like a bridezilla a little

Yeah there is nothing you can do or say about this. Also, I don't think it will have a real effect on your photos. Yeah maybe you will be able to see the mullet in some of your wedding album photos but who cares? Were you planning to frame and hang up a picture of the best man somewhere? It won't show in group shots imo. Just focus on you and your husband

View Quoted Comment That's exactly what I was thinking.

I would be mad too! Can you do anything about it?


Probably not, but maybe?
The rule with bridesmaids is generally that you can require them to have their hair done professionally if you pay for it. Can you pay for him to have it styled in a way that makes it look less distracting?