Best man no show

Can you track him down and sit down and talk to him?

What does FH think? This is his friend, after all. Is he worried about his bach, or does he not care? It'll be too bad if the GM don't match, but really not the end of the world. I'd say if DH isn't worried, let it go.

OMG!! We're in a similar situation with one of our groomsmen! I'm super organized and live by my lists and the fact that I have something so overdue that isn't checked off is giving me a lot of anxiety. FH is also frustrated that his GM is being so flakey (although he isn't quite as type A as me, so he doesn't get the anxiety as much as I do).

Our GMs are getting their tuxes through MW and the store requested that everyone get their measurements in within a month of us choosing the tuxes. Everyone did except this one GM...and that deadline was 4 months ago! I understand that he isn't in the greatest spot financially (we're also not in a spot where we can help him out), but I'm not sure money is even the main issue. FH has reminded him several times that he needs to get fitted (and each time gives him the group info for MW) and each time GM says, "Yep, I'll do it this week," but never does. If we can't rely on him to take 15 minutes of his time to get fitted for his tux, how are we supposed to rely on him to show up the day of the wedding?!?! He was supposed to be in a mutual friend's wedding last summer and texted the bride the MORNING OF THE WEDDING saying, "Hey, sorry, not gonna make it," so the fear that he may do the same thing with us is very real. I'd be much more understanding if he were to tell us now that he just didn't think he'd be able to make being a GM work, and there would be no hard feelings. I would have a HUGE problem with it if I got a text like that the morning of the wedding.

I've told FH that he NEEDS to have a talk with this GM to let him know that we need to know what's going on with his situation - is he going to be a GM or not - and we need to know by May 15 (cuz after that I'm ordering wedding party gifts and I refuse to drop $60 on him if he's not even going to be a GM). If he can't give us a straight answer by that time or doesn't get fitted, sorry, but I'm going to have to ask him to step down from the wedding party. Some may view that as a bitch move, but this guy has already caused me so much anxiety by not being cooperative and I'm not going to have him stress me out like that the morning of my wedding.

My advice is to give him a deadline and if he doesn't do what was asked if him by that time, let him know that he will no longer be in the wedding party. You shouldn't have to babysit and be stressed out by your wedding party because they can't do the one thing that is required of them in the time it was asked of them to have it done by.

The FH is also ticked and frustrated, this is a best friend from childhood he really wants him there. But he isn't willing to wait much longer he has other options. We are going to where he works to talk to him this week. I think it is too much to do this but the FH is wanting to so its up to him. If he isn't on board by the end of this week we are done.

Have fh text him to meet for drink, and then after some small talk and said beer, the two of them drive to MW and he gets fitted. Period.