Best man's wife being difficult

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Sorry you have to deal with this! i hope she put her big girl pants on and put her bf in his place!

I typically would be all don't change your wedding for anyone but I'm looking at it this way. This is not just Best Man. This is Future Brother and Sister-in-Law. How is doing this going to effect long term family relationships? If she throws a fit at your wedding you most likely will see her again. And again. And again and that is going to cause strife for the both of you.

I saw a lovely wedding processional where the groomsmen came in with the groom and the bridesmaids walked in solo. Then they all walked out solo.

Maybe you could have her walk into the reception with him when the bridal party is announced. This way people will know he’s hers, or whatever her problem is. This sounds so asinine to me. I definitely would not change the tradition you are used to of the maid of honor and best man walking together because it offends someone who you aren’t even close with. Why should her traditions/beliefs be more important than yours on YOUR wedding day? If she has such an issue with it, she should skip the ceremony.

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She did. I hope it all works out for you.

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I dont prefer this idea but thanks for the suggestion

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Im leaning towards having her not come to the ceremony because she wont even let anyone speak when they try to explain that the walking down the aisle with my MOH is innocent and traditon... thank you!

The wife is being absolutely ridiculous... but I think I'd be more afraid of her causing a scene at your wedding and then him having to leave like you said happened last time. So while I'd hate to give in to this crazy girl I feel like not having a solution would be way worse. For the processional (entering) I've always seen the bridal party members walk single file so you can do that. We did this but had the best man (my husband's brother) walk their mom who is single, and my brother that was a groomsmen walked my mom. It was really cute. If your fiance's parents are together maybe the best man can walk a grandparent in instead. Then for the recessional, the bridal party normally walks in pairs. If you have a flower girl and ring bearer maybe you can pair the best man with the ring bearer? If not maybe if the best man and MOH don't link arms or anything while walking out the wife might not freak out?

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Yes, i totally see where you're coming from. she is going to be my sister-in-law and i will definitely see her again. however, this woman is so difficult and its not the first time she has acted like this or tried to make someones special moment about her as opposed to about the bride/groom. she was left out of that first wedding i mentioned where her hubby was the best man for a reason... MIL, FIL, her husband all tried talking to her and she refuses to listen, talks over them and wont change her mind. i will most definitely not change my wedding for someone who constantly acts this way. however i appreciate your advice, thanks!

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Brittany, she is already freaking out and my wedding isn't until next month. i've seen christian/catholic weddings the tradition is groomsmen and bridesmaids all walk alone down the aisle but im not having a catholic wedding nor do i want to change my processional for this woman. she is rude and inconsiderate and she is disrespecting my wedding with her actions. i hate to say it but the only way to avoid her drama is for her to just stay home :/

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That would definitely be ideal. Can your husband talk to his brother and guarantee she won't come to the ceremony?

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Working on it! lol

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Get an Uber to drive her to the wrong location LOL. Best of luck!

Can you have the best man come early alone to get ready, then have someone slash her tires so she can’t come at all?🤣
j/k
sorry I don’t have any suggestions that other people haven’t already suggested. Unfortunately, I would be more concerned about her making a scene then having the people of honor walk alone. I like the idea of the MOH with the flower girl and Best man with ring bearer. Then no one is alone and your “extra” special people aren’t alone.
I was at a wedding where the best man walked in to the reception with the maid of honor and made a beeline for his girlfriend standing on the perimeter of the dance floor and kissed her. Apparently she was insecure (although thoe MOH was also happily married and not interested). It was super awkward.
I hope you didn’t want to do wedding party slow dance. ☹️

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Haha love the tire idea! hoping she just doesnt show up at this point because i refuse to change my processional for this rude girl

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You know what if this is a constant behavior from her and not just in this context I'd say don't change your plans then. Sounds like this is a hill you need to die on for your own sanity. She either needs to learn how to get along or she won't be welcome because people get sick of adults acting like children.

If you want him to walk with MOH, then that’s what he needs to do. If he refuses, ask him to step down from being best man. I am personally a very jealous girl myself and wouldn’t want anyone touching my man but come on... it’s a few hours for a wedding. This is what comes with the role

She is being a little ridiculous in my opinion. BM isn’t marrying your MOH. In my opinion he walks with who you tell him to and that’s that. He can figure out his relationship issues with her later. If she gets mad it is NOT your fault. And I don’t think this has anything to do with her not being American it’s just that she is an extremely jealous person. I mean you can tell your MOH not to hold on to BM arm? Lol just a suggestion. Good luck!

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This is ridiculous!!

We all have our own vision for our weddings. Those visions should not be derailed by an insecure crazy person!! NO! Don't cave.

But more importantly, do not feel that you are the reason for any issues in their marriage. Any issues are caused by the two of them! She sounds so completely insecure that she can't even handle watching her husband walk next to another woman. He's not sleeping with her, or dating her, or doing anything else with her. He's WALKING. And probably a pretty short walk, at that.

I'm just so flabbergasted by the ridiculousness of this. Are we really debating what to do in this situation?

Just my opinion, of course, but I think that you all should go about your planning, and your wedding day as you have envisioned, and pretend this woman's ridiculous suggestions and behavior don't exist. I also think the best man needs to have a serious sit down with his wife, to try to ensure that she doesn't make a scene at your wedding.

Maybe if you and FH are part of that conversation, to reassure her that this is a very common American tradition, and it means absolutely nothing, except for the look of your ceremony. That might be helpful. She has nothing to worry about, only she seems to be the only one who doesn't know that.

I think the groomsmen should enter in the front and the bridesmaids walk down the aisle for the processional. For the recessional, the bridesmaids and groomsmen would walk down together. The don't have to touch, they can simply walk next to each other.

OR, like in my friend's wedding, the groomsmen and us bridesmaids alternated walking down the aisle for the recessional solo, since the aisle was sooo narrow and didn't accommodate 2 people side-by-side comfortably.

ORRR you can tell her to get over herself. I do not entertain people's crazy. It's your day.

View Quoted Comment It's a shame you can't just uninvite her. Solves everything.

The best man needs to grow a pair and tell her to stay home if he is so concerned about her causing a scene. If you can't act properly, you don't get to go to nice things. It is your wedding and this is pretty standard. You're not asking for anything crazy here. No one - not the best man and especially not you and your FH - should be encouraging this behavior by giving it power here.