Bf/bm Moving Away

Yea this is really hard. I moved across the country with my fiancé and don’t really have any new friends. I still chat almost daily with my friends back home on text and phone calls but it’s not the same.

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Exactly, it’s just not the same when you don’t see each other! It’s so hard to make new friends as adults.

My best friend and I have known each other since we were 4 (28 years!) and we've weathered bicoastal college and post college situations. We actually became closer. We both reached out and put effort in. She's about an hourish away and we don't see each other too frequently, but our friendship is still strong.

There are ups and downs in all relationships. As long as you both put in effort, you'll probably be good. But all of my closest friends I speak with not too frequently, but it's like no time has passed when we do!

View Quoted Comment Yes! I don’t want to make my working relationships awkward, everyone’s so busy or has kids or the opposite, just wants to party. Also im a reserved person so I don’t always know what to say.

I’m the one who moved away from my best friends in the whole world. My 2 childhood best friends live halfway across the country from me now, but I couldn’t imagine having anyone else stand next to me on my wedding day. As such, my entire bridal party lives 3,000 miles away from me and we’re talking about the wedding over text message and Facebook chat. It’s not easy, but if you’re both willing to put in the effort to keep the friendship alive and kicking, you’ll be ok.

It's definitely not easy. I was engaged March 2018 and one of my good friends/bm's moved September 2018, shortly after I asked her to stand with me. Her and her husband were one of the few couples FH and I really enjoyed spending time with and she was the closest BM I had (everyone else was at least 1.5 hours away) I went from seeing her every week to not seeing her at all and really only talking here and there. Both of our lives are busy AF and we don't blame each other but it still sucks. I regret not doing a better job of making sure we stay close...she will Snap me and I won't respond or just ignore it cause I'm in the middle of something else, I don't reach out as much as I should, the last time we talked was while I was lost, in the car, with a glitchy GPS so I had to hang up on her.....but, I am hoping things settle down over the next year. We used to have weekly facetime sessions while FH was at bowling and her husband was working and I plan to resume that ASAP cause your post just made me realize just how bad I've been with it and how much I miss her!

I’m kind of going through the same thing. My best friend and MOH is at college on the other side of the state, one of my other bridesmaids is also living on the other side of the state for work, and my sister lives 8 hours north of here. I only have one other sister here (who is also a bridesmaid) but she hasn’t helped me plan anything at all other than going with me when i found my dress and when we got the bridesmaid dresses (she didn’t have a choice haha). My MIL is great at planning things so she has been a saint in helping me get things together and plan everything. As for the fun bridal stuff, my best friend and MOH comes home every so often so she is going to help me while she’s here. My advice to you is just to keep her in the loop, if you need advice on planning, text or facetime her so she is still involved. When she comes to try on dresses have a day where you work on wedding stuff like decorations or invites. 💕

View Quoted Comment That’s great that you have weekly FaceTime dates! I would def give her a call, it’s so easy to lose touch. I get that way too, though. We’re so busy all the tine that when people call me I often just ignore it bc I’m in the middle of something, or honestly just don’t want to talk.

View Quoted Comment That’s great you have help from future MIL! That’s a good idea, to have her help with other things while she’s up here. I’m super organized, so the planning part hasn’t been bad so far. Granted, I’m still over a year out, but I’ve been working through hiring vendors. It just sucks that I likely won’t have my BMs here with me for my shower and bachelorette, so I’m like what will I even do? Thanks for the advice!

My best friend/maid of honor moved out of state a month after my husband and I got my engagement ring. It's definitely not easy but with technology it's so easy to catch up with friends now a days.

Thanks, everyone. I’m sure it will be fine, and hopefully we both put the effort in to stay in contact. Pretty sad today, though, since she left this morning. Thanks for all the words of encouragement!

If its a good true friendship it will endure the distance. My bestfriends live 2000 miles away because I moved in highschool and here we are 10 years later after I moved and they are still my bestfriends. While we don't talk everyday or anything like that they are still the people I can go to no matter what. When my sister passed away in January ( also their friend) I found out at like 1130pm and they were the first people I called and we cried on the phone for hours and within a few days they drove the 2000 miles to be with me. True friendship will withstand time and distance always! best of luck it will all work out.

side note: theres really not a lot of fun bridal moments to be completely honest. 3 of my girls are local and 2 are out of state and I don't feel my out of state girls missed out on anything.