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Just Said Yes June 2023

Big honeymoon before the wedding?

Tessa, on September 5, 2022 at 8:07 PM Posted in Honeymoon 0 6
Hi all! New here and so excited to be here! đź’ž My fiance and I just got engaged and picked a date for June 10, we found vendors but haven't officially signed contracts or payed deposits yet. For the past year we've talked about getting married in the spring and then taking off to Europe for a backpacking trip. My family has a reunion planned in Holland for August, so would end off the trip by meeting them there.


Now, my MOH just told me she's had multple positive pregnancy tests and will be due right around the wedding, so likely won't be able to attend. I don't want to move the wedding up so she can come while pregnant, because that's not enough time to plan the wedding we want, plus we want an outdoor wedding. She suggested we get married end of August and just do this big trip as a "pre-honeymoon" BEFORE we get married. We're moving across the country for my fiance's schooling in September, so moving the honeymoon til after isn't really an option.
Has anyone done this big of a pre-honeymoon before? I'm nervous that being gone for 2 months leading up to the big day will be stressful as we won't be around to plan last minute things, and that when we get home we'll have to jump right back into wedding planning and only have a couple weeks until the big day. Or should we just keep our original June date and accept my MOH won't be able to attend?

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Latest activity by Paige, on September 6, 2022 at 12:12 PM
  • Jm Sunshine
    Jm Sunshine Online ·
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    I would honestly plan your wedding around what works best for you and FH and not other people, as life events can change instantly for anyone. Also, most venues are booked through 2023, so your wedding date is dependent on that as well.
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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    I agree with pp- your wedding is about you and your fiancé and that’s who it should be planned around. (Just like her family planning is about her and her SO, and they didn’t plan the pregnancy around your wedding). You could easily reschedule your wedding around her, then another close friend or family member could have an issue with the new date. Also, (lord forbid) what if she has a miscarriage? I know it’s disappointing she likely won’t be able to make it, but you can always live stream the ceremony for her.
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    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    I would keep your plans and accept she won’t be there. Maybe find a way to still keep her included, stream the ceremony or have prewedding events early enough that she could still attend.
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  • Bird
    Super June 2021
    Bird ·
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    My husbands best friends wife gave birth 3 days before our wedding and they obviously couldn’t make it. It was sad but we know they love us and it didn’t effect our friendship at all.



    I wouldn’t do a big trip before the wedding because planning a trip takes a lot of time and effort and so does a wedding.

    Good luck with whatever you decide!
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  • Gillian
    Devoted July 2021
    Gillian ·
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    I personally would not plan a honeymoon before a wedding for the obvious reason that it’s not a honeymoon because you’re not married yet. Also these last 2 months of planning can get quite busy with the small details, menus, alcohol purchases, 30 day to event payments and confirmations.
    I highly recommend what pps have stated and that is to plan the wedding you and your partner want and not to time it around a friend.
    But before any of that, you can’t pick a date/time until you start committing and signing contracts for venue/food.. 2023 is incredibly booked already. Create a budget and then start venue hunting. Once they tell you what dates are available, pick from there
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  • Paige
    VIP October 2022
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    The last month or two prior to the wedding are usually the busiest, and I'd be really uncomfortable being gone during that time. I say stick to the date you and your fiancé agreed to since that's what works for both of your schedules and lives, and let your MOH know that you hope things will work out so that she'll be able to be there but understand if she can't.

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