My fiance has a...um...strained relationship with his father. His father has an issue with alcohol among other things. It was my fiance's decision to not invite him. My BIL, who is slated to be the best man, became super angry when my fiance told him that dad wasn't invited. He started yelling and belittling my fiance accusing him of being ashamed of who he is, that he is ashamed of his catholic upbringing (I have no idea what that is about) and so on. He told my fiance that he was going to bring their father as his plus 1 and if he doesn't get a plus 1, he would just tell their father where it is so he can show up. BIL said that we should just understand that their father is who he is and since he is the FATHER we need to let him do what he wants. I do not understand this type of behavior because I have no issues removing toxic people from my life and that includes family. My fiance is now all twisted up and fretting over these family issues. I told him that if he is so uncomfortable, we could very simply not invite his brother (who lives in CA and we are in NJ). After saying that, I started to feel like I overstepped my boundaries. Any ideas on how we can get through this? Am I wrong about not inviting BIL and FIL? Should we just get security?
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