Looking for some guidance... my husband and I are attending a wedding that is requesting “Black Tie Optional” and the bride is heavily emphasizing that men wear tuxes and women wear evening gowns.
My husband and I have gone to a handful of TRUE black tie events, and we feel this wedding wouldn’t merit a black tie dress code. It’s in a fun, artsy warehouse downtown. The event starts before 6pm, they are directing us to park in a nearby lot for $5, the bar is only serving wine and beer that has a cap, and the food will be buffet catering done by a local Hawaiian fast-food type joint. I got all this info from the groom (a relative of mine).
We’ve asked the groom what the dress code actually entails, but he just regurgitated what his bride-to-be told him which was “black tie optional. Evening gowns and tuxes preferred.” Not 20 minutes after, she posted a very snarky post on social media explaining that black tie optional is not semi-casual, and how men should wear tuxes and blah blah blah. She then hashtag it #themoreyouknow.
Should we just bite the bullet and get dressed hoping we’re not the only ones? Or should we dress more in line with the formality of the event?? Please help!
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