Blindsided by my twin sister

I am sorry you feel this way. I am sure you to have a great bond which is why you are hurt and its totally understandable. Maybe talk to her and see why she kept from you?

I think you can let her know exactly that, that it hurts your feelings she couldn't just be honest about it with you. After that conversation though, you are going to have to decide how much you want to let it affect your future relationship with her. Are you expecting an apology? Are you willing to let it go and move on as before if you get one?

I totally understand being hurt but maybe you should talk to her? Her relationship with her friend must be pretty close for her to ask her to be maid of honor. She probably hid it from you knowing you'd be upset.

When she started planning, maybe she didn't want a MOH and then changed her mind later. She should have told you, but she was under no obligation to ask you. It hurts, but don't let it affect your relationship in the future.

I understand how you feel and I'm very sorry. My mother said that my sister and I have to be each other maid of honor. My sister is my maid of honor. She recently got engage and hasn't said anything about her wedding beside that she need to save money for it and the date. And she hasnt been there for any planning of my wedding. My best friend has been there more for me. So I understand. Try to relax and don't stress over it. Sometime our love one show love in different ways that might hurt us but they still love us.

I would just ask your twin. People may have assumed that she was MOH if she was handling most of the shower, etc. The same thing happened for my best friends wedding. She had no bridal party, but I threw her a bachelorette party and people started referring to me as her MOH. People assume things sometimes without any real info. She's your sister, just talk to her

Thanks everyone! I ended up talking to her yesterday. She said that she thought she told me that she decided to ask her best friend to be her maid of honor, but must have forgotten. She apologized and said that she didn't mean to hurt me. She asked me if I would stand as her matron of honor. I accepted her apology and agreed to be her matron of honor. I feel weird about it because I didn't want her to change her plans. More than anything I was hurt that I didn't hear directly from her initially. I understand and am trying to assume that she honestly forgot to tell me.

Glad that you were able to talk to her and receive an apology. I would just take as she forgot and try to move on and support her during her wedding as her matron of honor.