bm asking photographer to take personal pictures?

Very inappropriate. I would address it with your photographer also. He/she was employed by you to take pictures of your wedding and should have been more professional

I would definitely be upset about it. What if your photographer missed some great photos at the reception because they were taking personal pictures? I would confront the bm and the photographer to find out the full story. If your photographer gives you the photos, I wouldn't give them to bm or I'd charge her 👊

Super inappropriate. Your photographer was on your time, not theirs.

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Agreed! How rude of your BM

HAHA what? Are you serious? I'm surprised the photographer said yes. I would say this is a no for the photographer and the guest unless you had already approved it.

If it was a group picture or if the photographer just happen to be there I wouldn't have mind as much but it was just her and her BF alone. I think I will talk to my photographer to get the full story. I hate to assume too much. Maybe it was just a 1-2 photos. But yea, I was pretty surprised when I learned that. I've never heard anyone doing that before.

I'd be pissed, though I'm not really sure what I would do about it. I would want her to reimburse me for the photographer time, or whatever they would pay for a photoshoot. But I'm not sure I'd have the guts to demand it. You should also mention this to your photographer, and if he/she doesn't do something to make it right, include it in your review.

I’m looking forward to giving guests an opportunity to get some professional photos taken. I don’t see a problem with it. If the photographer was busy it was their job to tell the bridesmaid no

I find it inappropriate and your photographer shouldn’t have allowed it either

Inappropriate for both parties and unprofessional of your photographer.

Wow! Not appropriate at all. Quick snaps of couples during the reception (other than you and your spouse) are totally normal, but the photographer leaving the reception to go off alone with these two people to take photos? Not okay. I would feel like I basically paid for them to have a couples photo shoot (and with how much I'm paying my photographer I would be furious). It's sad that a BM and presumably close friend would do this, but totally unacceptable that a professional would say yes!

I would say try not to let it bother you too much since it's over with and you can't change it. But you definitely have every right to be upset and confront either of these people if you choose.

I'm not surprised a bridesmaid or for that matter any guest would ask that. But its the photographer that needs to tell them that they are there for the bride and groom. If they want a couples photo shoot they need to book him.

I went to a wedding once where a guest asked one of the photographers to take pictures of him and his girlfriend AND HE PROPOSED!! Yes you read that right.... HE PROPOSED AT SOMEONE ELSES WEDDING!!! No one knew it was going to happen either!! The bride handled it like a champ and acted excited but EVERYONE has a severe side eye towards the couple for the rest of the night!

I felt bad bad for the photographer being out into that situation.... like it was only about 20 yards from the reception as the dock was right by it but then of course he couldn’t ruin that moment as a professional!

So so so sad.

Anyways, yes this was inappropriate, you were the bride and I’m sure it went well other than that, maybe breathe and try to let it go.... if it’s more than a photo or two a conversation should be had though with the photographer.

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Omg, that's so cringy! Some people...ugh haha

Yea, I believe my wedding did go very well! The only thing I keep hearing about is this specific BM and the certain things she did or didn't do.

I appreciate all the input so far

What kind of friends are those. Not cool. You paid for his time

I think it's inappropriate. I'm the one who is paying the photographer for their services and who will receive the photos. Pictures of guests throughout the reception are fine, but I know I don't want a bunch of posed photos of a couple off on their own during the reception time. I probably wouldn't even share the pictures with that couple lol.

Not sure how I would approach it with the BM, but I would probably mention it to the photographer, especially if you see a bunch of those photos when you receive your pro pictures.

I think it’s kinda inappropriate, they should have been photographing the reception. I think if they were at the reception and asked to have their picture taken there, that’s fine. But the fact that they went to another area to have their own pictures done seems a little tasteless.

I can't believe your photographer agreed to that. One or two pictures right there would be one thing, but to go off like that and be doing multiple pictures? Very inappropriate.

As a photographer, I’ve had this happen often. It’s smazing how pushy bridesmaids can be! I’ve also had entire families demand that we take their family Christmas card photo. I usually try to stay there isn’t time, but I would rather do it then have that person make a scene at a wedding, which has happened. Or write a bad review, which has also happened. Typically always tell them it must be purchased separately, because the bride and groom sure is heck are not paying me to take someone else’s family Christmas card picture. It’s super rude and obnoxious, but it happens quite often sadly.

I would be upset about it.

I'm paying money for this person to come to my wedding and take pictures of me and FH and others we designate before hand.

If one of my BMs or any guest for that matter were to pull my photographer away and ask for a mini shoot of themselves, I'd ask them to pay me for the photographer's time because I am not paying for my photographer to give them professional photos.

(I wouldn't really expect the money, just to make a point.)

I mean, it's over and done with, but have you gotten the pictures back? Or did the photographer send those pictures directly to them?