bm asking photographer to take personal pictures?

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Thank you for your feedback especially from a photographer's point of view! I can see how it would be difficult to say no to taking a picture if that's your job. I am planning to talk to my photographer to get her side of the story just to be sure.

Definitely inappropriate, but it already happened so I’m not sure I would address it - especially because it’s not behavior or a situation that will keep happening!

It’s totally fine to snag the photographer for a quick picture as they’re walking around the reception taking candid pictures of the guests - but not a mini photo shoot in another location! I also had my photographer come to our rehearsal dinner and several of my bridesmaids made sure they got a great picture of them with their significant other, but it took two seconds and my photographer was actively taking pictures of guests!

Just WOW. Completely inappropriate. Both for your guests and your photographer.

It’s hard to say no, especially to a member of a wedding party. I’ve had BP members say things like, “B&G told me to tell you to do xyz,” or a drunk BM start screaming at me (at 10 pm) that we didn’t do enough creative poses with the girls (we did....she just didn’t remember), but she told a bunch of people that we were terrible bc we didn’t listen to her, so I try to accommodate any BP requests. I figure these are your nearest and dearest, so I assume the bride is ok with it and doesn’t have rude friends. I’ve also gotten a 1 star review bc I didn’t have time to take a pic of just an aunt and uncle’s family instead of going with the bride & groom. It sucks that people can be completely socially stupid and have an impact on your business for their selfish choices.

Inappropriate and extremely rude... YES...would I say anything after the fact about it if I just found out...nope. I find there is so much rudeness in this world and people think they can do & say whatever they want, that it is almost the norm.

Ok kind of ridiculous to literally leave and take a couple of photos, but I don't think wanting one or two nice pictures of her and her significant other from your wedding when they most likely are dressed to the nines, is so bad. I'd very honestly want one from the weddings I've gone to as well. I think it'd be ok if the bride was going through her pictures and saw her bridesmaid and significant other together in ONE or TWO shots. I also don't think it's so bad to want a family picture (again all dressed up, everyone there together and they might not all be together again.) The priority should be the bride and groom, but if he took some posed pictures of some of the people at my wedding sitting at tables it wouldn't bother me as long as they got all the important stuff.

We are opting for our photographer to take a picture of each person in our party with their date- if they want to. But one picture not off alone on a bridge when they should be capturing our wedding! Lol

Very Inappropriate and I would ask for money back

View Quoted Comment I’m super curious now to find out when you get your pictures! If you will have 1 or 2 of them or like 20...please keep us updated! This is definitely weird and inappropriate IMO.

I think it's highly inappropriate

Totally inappropriate. There is a time and place for everything and a couples photoshoot at your wedding with your photographer is totally not the place. Especially considering she's your bridesmaid and supposed to be there for you on your day

I think it would depend on how long the photographer was photographing them. If it was a quick picture or two I don't think that would be a big deal. If they were gone for a while taking multiple photos then yes, that is inappropriate.

That is not appropriate. The photographer is being paid by you to take photos of everyone at your reception not to take time to take personal pictures of guests like a photo shoot

Well if I got the pictures back and there were 10 shots of them in this spot I for one would not be sending them to them! And i would ask the photographer not to as well. I plan on telling my photographer not to do this. Stick to the timeline or wait in the wings!

I would be upset at both parties. The photographer for being so unprofessional and the BM for even thinking that was appropriate. You paid a professional photographer to take pictures of your wedding, not your BM and her boyfriend. I would be interested to know if you receive those photos back or if he sent them directly to the couple.

View Quoted Comment This seems really inappropriate, but to be honest, I can see some of my immediate family trying to do this. What else did this BM do?

I’m sure the BM put your photographer in an awkward position but the photographer should have told them that she can’t leave the reception and she would need the bride or groom’s permission. This way it lets the photographer off the hook.

I would talk with the photographer first before confronting the BM to find out what happened. The photographer can’t send those photos directly to the BM or she would likely be breaking the contract.

This is so cringey, yikes. I'm so sorry they did that. If the photographer sent me their pictures, I wouldn't even forward them to the couple.

Maybe if I was feeling brave I'd even talk to the bridesmaid and say, "Hey, I just got my wedding photos back.. why are their shots of you and your boyfriend by the bridge?"

Very inappropriate!! Who’s paying for these personal photos? Certainly not you I hope!

Your wedding is over right?
Who cares?

did you not like your photos? Did the photographer miss something important to you because of it? If so, take it up with your photographer and not your BM. Otherwise, enjoy your newlywed bliss and don’t get sucked into any drama.