Let me first say that I ache so terribly for those of you who have been planning, dreaming, and discussing your Spring 2020 weddings for months or even years and are now forced - without choice - to postpone. This is not that type of question and I encourage anyone to send love to those couples over responding to my silly little internal debate. But since this is a unique time and every scenario is different I wanted to ask the question in case there were others like me looking for guidance.
I've been with my partner for 8 years and we finally decided - together and without fanfare - to get married this year. It was a whirlwind: We went from "hey let's finally do this and have a great celebration!" to booking an amazing venue within 7 days. We were lucky enough to secure an idyllic (weather-wise) date: September 18, 2020. We were excited about the chance to pull this off in 6 months. Two days after signing our venue contract the coronavirus was declared a pandemic and "that thing happening in Seattle" became very real for us on the East Coast.
The venue has very strict postponement guidelines but we've muscled them into giving us the option to move our wedding, however, their remaining dates for 2021 are not ideal (Jan, Feb and March which is cold and dark here, or July which is a heat wave here). I know everyone is saying that things will be fine by September - and they probably will be - but we haven't even told family and friends about our plans, haven't booked any other vendors, and didn't even buy an engagement ring yet. It feels depressing and challenging to do all of the planning amidst uncertainty and quarantine, yet I would hate to postpone and have September 18th go by without issue.
Would you postpone to 2021, or stay the course? Postponing means losing our ideal date and not being able to get married this year after waiting 8 years. But going forward means planning in a state of uncertainty and panic.
(thank you for taking the time to read this super lengthy post!)
