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Kevin
Super October 2021

Borrowing Bride

Kevin, on July 2, 2020 at 10:54 AM

Posted in Style and Décor 23

So long story short, my moms best friends daughter is getting married in January. At a family gathering I was showing her pictures of our centerpieces, tables numbers etc. like all brides show off their Pinterest boards full of DIY. And she said after every thing, oh can I borrow that, can I use...
So long story short, my moms best friends daughter is getting married in January. At a family gathering I was showing her pictures of our centerpieces, tables numbers etc. like all brides show off their Pinterest boards full of DIY. And she said after every thing, oh can I borrow that, can I use those for my wedding. To which my mom said yes. It took convincing of my fiancé to let her borrow these items and they will all be handmade woodworking done by the two of us. Everything will be made by us even our arch. He didn’t want to let her borrow any of it, but my mom and I convinced him otherwise, as our wedding is done what the downside not like we will use them again. We were going to get married in October and have now postponed to next year Smiley sad which means her wedding will come before mine. Now my fiancé is adamant that we don’t make anything yet, because he doesn’t want her to use all these items before us. We have only done mockups for measuring and all that. I feel bad because she won’t have anything and will now have to buy her own items, but to begin with, she assumed she could have every piece of decor we ever bought or made, without helping pay for any of it and now we don’t want her to use anything, especially my fiancé. What do I do?

23 Comments

  • Naikesha
    Super September 2020
    Naikesha ·
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    I would call sooner rather than later and explain that due to Covid you guys have postponed your wedding a year and will not begin making the decorations anytime soon due to storage issues and just not knowing what or how many you will need. express you sincere apologizes although you never offered. and move on.

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  • Blane
    Savvy August 2021
    Blane ·
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    I think you should take some responsibility. She didn’t have to twist yours or your mother’s arm very much. You guys didn’t respect your fiancés feelings and now this seems a bit like karma. Wedding decor is part of what you’ll remember from your special day and now you probably realize that giving that to someone else Is not fair to your wedding. Especially when it’s handmade and takes time and love. I don’t think you should have made any promises or convinced your fiancé to share something so special. That’s on you to tell her.
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  • Kimberly
    Expert October 2019
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    I would tell her that due to current circumstances, you had to postpone your wedding and unfortunately have not started on the DIY projects as now you have more time. She can't fault you for that. It's not on you to supply her with her wedding decor.

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