I'm the maid of honor for my best friends wedding. There's only two other bridesmaids, one who's a sister of the groom and one who's another friend of the bride (neither of which I know super well). I planned a bridal shower for the bride and it went great. Next, obviously, is the bachelorette. (Also just to note I fully paid for the bridal shower by myself)
I got ideas on what to do from the bride for her bachelorette party and essentially it is a weekend getaway that involves an airbnb. There are about 6 people coming total who have known about the plans months in advance.
Last night I sent out a message to all the guests that it would really help for everyone to contribute to the cost of the house rental, food, activities and drinks. I'm shouldering the majority of the costs but I asked if the other girls could contribute 100 to 125 dollars and mentioned that I would be super flexible. Yet again this is an entire weekend with food, drinks, planned activities and rides. I thought I was being pretty reasonable, but the bride called me and was upset because her friend called her and told her now she was considering not going.
The friend said that I was being completely unreasonable and it was outrageously expressive. I don't know what she expected, honestly. The friend also mentioned that she had assumed that the whole event would be fully paid for and she was overwhelmed because she didn't expect to have to spend anything.
Am I being unreasonable? Is it normal for the guests to contribute to the bachelorette?