Boundaries. Why would a wedding be different?

Some posts from others talk of assumed family reunion/ weddings; others of "I pay, so I say". However, one other boundary that is crossed is manipulating a bride or groom's attire to fit their image of appropriateness. For example, my parents wanted my sister to wear a larger diamond pendant on her wedding day, probably to look more expensive. She decided to wear it for the ceremony then changed into the gift her husband bought her for the reception (or vice versa). For my wedding, they wanted to finance new jewelry for which I had to go shop myself (they are in a different city). I tried, but this was stressful. I wore something I already owned like planned. A good intention gift, but it was like what? This is on my person.

I'm not trying to excuse the behavior, but I think people get excited about weddings. In my experience, people are either very hands on and want to help with everything or are distant and afraid of overstepping. It may also depend on your personality. I set hard boundaries and have no tolerance when they are violated, so people in my life don't push them.

People have A LOT of their own ideas about how a wedding should go in general, and those closest to you usually have their own vision of how they picture your wedding, which they've probably been building up in their minds for years. Some people are not as great at letting go of their vision (even though it should be your day), then add on that some people react worse to having their ideas turned down, and it's a recipe for drama. I think that's why it's so important to 1) stick to your guns since you're inevitably going to go against SOMEONE'S vision, so you might as well have the day you want, and 2) pay for the whole thing yourself so nobody has any ammo to demand their way.