Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Ceelie
Expert August 2019

Boutonniere's and corsage's? Meh..

Ceelie , on July 16, 2019 at 6:32 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 39

So this is just my personal preference, but I feel like giving the groomsmen boutonniere's and the bridesmaids corsage's seems a little "high school prom - ish" to me. However, my FMIL seems to think it's a great idea and as of now, probably thinks that is the plan. But I'm really torn, is it part of a wedding etiquette? Or is it OK to not do boutonnieres and corsages? I'm not too worried about telling her how I feel about it, I just don't know if I want to or not.

39 Comments

Latest activity by Devin, on July 22, 2019 at 10:53 AM
  • Brooke
    Expert November 2019
    Brooke ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I will be doing boutonnieres for the groomsmen, but not corsages for the bridesmaids (as they will have the bouquets)

    • Reply
  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
    Cristy ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    Yes, this exactly. Also, I am doing a couple of corsages, but not for the bridesmaids. I'm giving one to FHs mom, and one to his aunt. I don't have my mom anymore, so I might do one for my favorite auntie as well.

    • Reply
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I’ve never been to a wedding where the bridesmaids wore corsages. They’ve always had bouquets or some kind of alternative. I also think it’s traditional for the groomsmen to have bouts if the groom and other VIPs will be wearing them.
    • Reply
  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I've never heard of corsages for bridesmaids, i've only seen bouquets at the weddings i've been too. They guys in my wedding will be wearing bouts, my attendants will have bouquets. If my mom or FH's mom were alive still i'd get them corsages.

    • Reply
  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    In our wedding the bridesmaids have bouquets, the Mothers have wrist corsages, & FH grandma will have a pin corsages.
    • Reply
  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Agree with others. Corsages are usually for mothers, grandmothers, or any other female VIPs. Bridesmaids usually have bouquets. This is how we're doing it, along with bouts for all male bridal party members and make VIPs
    • Reply
  • Jazmine
    Expert September 2019
    Jazmine ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Mother’s, sister and grandma have corsages. Bridesmaid has bouquet
    • Reply
  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Corsages generally distinguish VIP members from regular guests but I'd call it an older tradition. A family member offered to pay for my flowers so once they set a budget I'll decide where to spend it
    • Reply
  • Monique
    Master December 2019
    Monique ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I’m doing boutonnières for the groomsmen but bells for the bridesmaids.
    • Reply
  • E
    Savvy November 2019
    Erica ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We are doing boutineeres bc I love calls lillies and want each groomsmen to have one- but my bridesmaids are doing bouquets. We wre doing corsages or pin ins for important female guests like aunts, etc.
    • Reply
  • Paula
    Super September 2019
    Paula ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I think boutineers are standard for groomsmen but haven't heard of corsages for the bridesmaids as they typically have bouquets. I am doing corsages for my FMIL and my mom
    • Reply
  • Bridget
    VIP August 2019
    Bridget ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    This 100% I agree with you that it would seem very promish.

    • Reply
  • R
    Super September 2018
    Rachel ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Its ok not to do either! My husband was in a tux and his groomsmen in black suits, no boutonnières! He preferred a cleaner, sleeker look without flowers getting in the way. The men looked great! Nobody complained.
    • Reply
  • CDickman
    VIP September 2019
    CDickman ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We are doing them. I see people with them at s lot of different events. I have hear of people thinking them with prom. I think it is cause that’s when you really remember buying them, but it is up to you.
    • Reply
  • H
    Devoted November 2019
    Heather ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We are not doing boutaneers because the groomsman are wearing linen shirts on the beach. I'm having a pocket square made for my grooms jacket pocket that will match the bridesmaid dresses. Bouquets for me and the bridesmaids. I asked the mothers if they wanted corsages or a flower for the hair and they preferred a flower for the hair (white orchid) I'm ordering hair flowers for the bridesmaids but they dont have to wear them if it doesn't work. No need to make guys wear boutaneers. They typically dont like them anyway.
    • Reply
  • Jennifer
    Super September 2020
    Jennifer ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Just bouquets and bouts for the bridal party. I'm not doing it for "VIPs" because, like you mention, it's very prom to me.
    • Reply
  • Future Mrs. Petro
    Devoted November 2018
    Future Mrs. Petro ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    My husband didn't want a bout so no one got one some with the cosages. My mom didn't want one so no one got one. It's your wedding do what you want! Don't get them out of obligation. If you like them and think they look nice then go for it and if not then don't my wedding was no less special because we didn't have a few boutonnieres and cosages.
    • Reply
  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
    Laura ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We’re not doing bouts or corsages. My maids will have very small bouquets.
    • Reply
  • Melissa
    VIP September 2019
    Melissa ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Never seen corsages for bridesmaids before. We are doing bouquets for bridesmaids, boutonnières for groomsmen, father’s, ring bearer and ushers, and corsages for FMIL, my grandma, and my cousin, the officiant.
    • Reply
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    People usually do it. Maybe there's alternatives you can look into. Corsages though normally don't go to bridesmaids but the other members like moms and grandmas
    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Learn more

Groups

WeddingWire article topics