Boyfriend not invited to my brother's wedding

The first thing I’d do is talk to your brother and ask him why. Not in an accusatory way, but in a genuine way of wanting to understanding his reasoning and go from there. It sounds like it’s a bit of a tricky situation so he may have some feelings about it. Per etiquette, your partner should be invited by name as you are a social unit, but I’m assuming there’s something he’s maybe upset by or something that would be helpful to clear the air about.

Normally I say couples should be invited as a unit but this is bit of a sticky situation. Has your brother and the rest of your family spent time with your bf since you have gotten back together? It is really hard to see a sibling or any loved one hurting your brother may not have forgiven him for hurting you. Your breakup hit you the hardest but remember your family members were impacted by it too Talk to your brother calmly about it and if he s not ready to forgive him I think you just need to give it time. Trust is earned once it's broken it can take awhile for it to be rebuilt, while it seems you have forgiven him those who love you and watched you struggle might still be wary of him. Best of luck to you.

I absolutely agree with previous posters. Talk to your brother in a gentle, non-judgmental way. Seek clarification and see what he has to say. It is very hard to forgive those who have hurt a family member. If your brother doesn’t want your BF at his wedding, I think you should respect his wishes

Unfortunately when there's emotional upheaval like that, people will have feelings around what happened. I'm wondering if that's the case here. I would check with your brother about what's going on with that, but you might need to hear him out. Etiquette says he should be invited but I do think this is complicated.

The couple getting married doesn’t get to judge the validity of their guests’ relationships. Unless someone has a partner who is toxic, they must be invited by name. It’s disrespectful to ask a guest to leave their significant other at home while celebrating the couple’s relationship because the couple doesn’t think it’s a legitimate relationship whether the guest has been with their partner for one month or they have lived together for 10 years with no plans to marry. The boyfriend is not a random Tinder date picked up off the street. Check with the couple but be prepared to decline the invitation if they say no he cannot attend.