Boyfriend of almost two years would in the beginning tell me how he wanted to marry me. I told him ok, lets get to know each other first and maybe on the second year live together. I'm not rushing into marriage without living together.
We were going to move into a place together this year. Then out of nowhere he gets mad at me over something small.. just because I told him I did not want to drive on a roadtrip on my birthday and the time he requested off of work was not correct days. He doesn't talk to me for a week then breaks up with me.
Says I didn't do anything wrong but how he doesn't want to marry into my family. He doesn't approve how my mom takes care of my niece. My family isn't perfect but they have not been mean to him or disrespected him.
The family he is referring to is my mom and little brother whom I live with that are not always as inviting. My family doesn't like people coming over. He has came over a handful of times, but I mostly go over to his place. My father passed away 6 years ago. So its not like he was not inviting.
He gave me some other reasons, different goals and values. Its things like that make me question marriage. I feel like he is wrong for saying that and its hurtful. As if my family isn't good enough. I really love him. He is important to me. I've given him so much love, patience even when other times he has said some out of line comments, put in the energy and effort, etc.
Right now I'm sad and depressed. Break up and say that about my family. They have been nice to him. His family is inviting and I get along with them. Now looking back at his family... they're not perfect. I could justify reasons but I'm not petty and sink that low. For all I know he meant what he said. But is a family not being as inviting justifiable reason not want to marry into someone's family? Asking for a friend.
All things aside, even though he makes it seem like my family terrible... again they have not been mean or disrespectful. And my mom isn't perfect but she takes care of my niece...makes sure she is fed, bathed, having fun, takes her outside to play. My niece has given a lot joy since my dad has passed away. And like most people sometimes grandparents allow their grandkids to get away with stuff or more relaxed than with their own kids.
