Breaking bread?

I think it is important to know how a Christian wife views submission. Not preaching for or against, but this is what I was taught in my biblical counseling.

Following taken from the website posted below. "The word submit means to voluntarily put yourself in another person's hands. Chaos happens when every one is trying to lead at the same time. So one person has been designated by God (Genesis 3:16) in each family to be the lead and the other to put themselves in the leader's trusting hands. God has given this role of leadership to the male husband of each wife. The wife is not less in intelligence or talent but is weaker as a physical vessel and should be treated accordingly. "

Taken from here: http://www.biblestudy.org/question/should-wives-be-submissive-to-their-husbands.html

@Rachel, just a reminder, Christian wives have differing view points on the topic I bet, especially the "treated accordingly"..they don't all believe in the same thing..just so everyone is clear on that.

Anyways, it's clear everyone believes in different things, we could sit here all day arguing about it. If you want to I'll grab my popcorn..if not I have work to get done lol.

@ ABZ

"treated accordingly" I copy and pasted. Those were not my words... they were a Christian's site.

Okay gotcha. I wouldn't paste things you don't believe then. oh well. I guess I direct my comments to the website author :-)

It's all good. I wasn't very clear. I posted it to bring the side in that people may have been a little confused about. When I first went into bible counseling, I was completely against the word submissive. I said all the things that some of the posters on here said as well. Then I was explained that there will come a time when there needs to be a clear leader of the family, and in those times I should choose to be submissive if it clearly is driving a wedge in the family. This is recommended, but people are people.. and everyone "sins". Not every person will be able to follow this at all times.

My FH is 6 years younger than I am, so most of the time, he takes a clear lead off of my choices, but he never dismisses me. I just think it is important to make clear that submissive is not always a negative thing.

I'll be honest, If I saw your husband to be break bread on your head at the altar, I would be wondering WTH was going on, even along with a blurb spoken about it, While I understand what you want to symbolize by it, I suggest finding away to do it with out wacking you on the head. It might also be something you would skip if your close firends/family/guests don't know that aspect of your relationship, as you might have some very worried people after.

LOL at FMS. So true..

Yea, FH and I have discussed this before, he knows I'm pretty stubborn, but we both see some of the good in being submissive, if you think about it, it's like having TOTAL trust and giving yourself to the other person..that IS something, that I personally am striving for..like you said just in that good/positive sense and certain situations..plus FH is usually the more practical one! :-). I see this as being related to compromise also which is important.

Ab Z-- You are right. I think it natural for all humans, regardless of gender, to want to feel like they have some control. For me, this was one of the hardest things to overcome, because I have been so independent.

However, the surprising thing that I have learned, is it nice to have him choose for me at times. It could be as simple as letting him choose where to go for dinner, or something as major as where to buy a house, but letting go of the worry to trust him is great.