I've broken so many wedding traditions and I'm in love with it.
First, let me say, when I was a kid I thought planning my wedding would be the best thing in the whole world. As an adult, though, I actually hate it...A LOT. So many of the decisions mean nothing to me because it seems like a ridiculous expense to pay for things that wont affect the outcome of that day. (I'm still paying for them for my guests sake but it's obvious that weddings in the Pinterest Age are guest-centric rather than being a celebration of the couple. Knowing what I know now this far into the wedding planning process, I would have stuck to my guns when I Initially said I wanted something very simple and not at a big venue.)
Traditions broken so far:
>My bridesmaids are wearing white with me (although this is not technically breaking tradition since bridesmaids USED to wear white to "confuse demons and other suitors" who they thought would try and kidnap or steal the bride. But I get many strange looks when I, or one of my bridesmaids, say they are wearing white).
>My wedding cake is going to be a deep gem tone shade of green with magnolias on it. I really love the look of wedding cakes with fresh flowers but I felt that a white cake with a white flower would look boring and flat. My wedding colors are ivory/green/gold so I decided to go with a deep green cake to offset the cream color of the magnolias.
>I have a bridesman (I guess I don't know if this is technically breaking tradition but when I say the word bridesman everyone tries to correct me and tell me "Oh honey, it's not a bridesman, they are either bridesmaids or groomsmen". ....No honey, I might be young but I'm not confused and I'm older than I look, my best friend is a guy and he's standing by my side when I get married. End of discussion).
>My husband and I are technically already married. This was not a tradition I intended to break but it is how life happens. We currently live in Washington, getting married 6/17/18 here, and had put down our deposit and initial payments on our wedding venue when I found out I was accepted to Louisiana State University's graduate school to get my masters of architecture. I have to be in Baton Rouge by August 15th for graduate student orientation. I grew up in Louisiana so we are looking to live down there beyond grad school and are now planning to purchase a home. My husband is a veteran and we are using the VA loan to get our home. Having dealt with the VA for the last 8+ years we knew the time between June 17th -> August 15th would not be enough time to file our marriage paperwork with the state, update his martial status with the VA, get approved for a home loan, find a home, make an offer, set closing dates, etc., and move all of our stuff and two dogs (one who cannot fly because he was temporarily paralyzed from his first round of vaccines and can no longer have vaccinations. He's finally walking again after five months of being unable to move at all), and have enough down time to move in, set up our home and unwind before I start school. Nonetheless have a honeymoon (which will now just be a road-trip across the country with our dogs which I am actually really looking forward to.) I know this was the right choice because we've been officially married since February 13th and his status has been updated with the VA since then and we're still waiting to hear back about how much of a loan we are eligible for. They gave us an estimate but we are still waiting for the official number and to get that approved by a lender. The same time has elapsed since getting married which we would have had between our wedding date and my school orientation date. Also, our quick backyard/lake wedding was perfect and sentimental (it was on Fat Tuesday and I grew up in Louisiana so each year we can have a soft anniversary on Mardi Gras and a hard anniversary on our June 17th date) plus I'm 1000x less stressed about the big wedding.
We are specifically incorporating a tradition into our wedding which I'm pretty excited about. We're going to bury the bourbon behind where we'll be standing and dig it up after the ceremony! This is supposed to ensure good weather during our wedding which is good since we're doing it in the woods in the Pacific Northwest in June. I'll take any help I can get. Also, our wedding reception will be all 90s music. DH kept telling me it was whatever I wanted so one day I was like "What if....we played all of the best music from the 90s?" and he said he didn't care.
What traditions are you guys breaking for your wedding?
