Bridal escort and honoring deceased parent and family at wedding

My father passed away when I was 5, to this day it’s still hard for me knowing he’s been gone for the biggest part of my life. I’ve always dreaded the day I would get married, but have came to accept that it’s just something that’s out of my control and can’t let it take away my happiness. I had finally decided that when I get married I would have my uncle walk me down the aisle, since he was my next best thing at a father figure in my life, but he passed away a few years ago. So I now decided to have my mother and brother walk me down the aisle since they have both been by my side through everything. I would like a table set up honoring our lost loved ones, but am confused if we are to list any family that was deceased before we were born (grandparents) just don’t want family to feel like we left them out. All of my grandparents except my grandmother were deceased before I was born and she passed away in 2010. My FH has only lost his grandfather. So my biggest thing is honoring my father, but like I said I forsure want to include my grandmother, brother, uncle, and his grandfather within the table we’d set up. I have considered doing the first dance with my brother, then half way through walk out and walk my mom to the dance floor with me to finish off the dance, all by surprise. I also have picked out the perfect song for both of them (My mother never remarried or dated anyone since my fathers passing, she played a huge part in my brother and I’s life, I just feel this is only appropriate to share this moment with her since she had to step up as both parents once my father passed.) I would just like some opinions on the decisions. Even some different options or other ideas would be great! Also, I clearly know my decisions are not traditional, that I do not care about, I just simply want to hear people’s input on whether it sounds like a good option to do or not. I’m not trying to sound rude, I just do not want all the replies stating “well traditionally...” because I already know it’s not exactly traditional. TIA (: