Bridal Group Chat

I sent a message in our group chat exactly 3 times during my wedding planning: to give them the date I was trying on dresses in case they wanted to come, pick a date for their dresses, and to tell them the cost for their hair and makeup if they wanted it. You really don't need to be in constant communication about wedding stuff.

I only send out a group chat to my bridesmaids whenever there's info to be shared with everyone! For example, wedding party transportation info, bridesmaids dress shopping, hair/makeup costs, etc. I personally am not a fan of group chats, so I try to avoid sending out wedding texts unless it's really necessary.


Since your wedding is in September, it sounds like there isn't anything you really need your bridesmaids to do at this time. Maybe check in sometime in the next 2-3 months to make sure everyone got their dresses, and to send some links to nearby alterations places in case anyone needs alterations done? As info comes up later on (rehearsal timing, day-of info, hair/makeup info, etc), definitely send it to them. Otherwise, if there's nothing to be said, I think it's fine to not be constantly communicating in the group chat.

BM group chats are the worst. Just talk to them individually unless it's something like "Hey, BM dresses are in" or "RD is going to be at Olive Garden at 6pm on the 10th - just FYI".

I never had a group chat with my bridesmaids. I just spoke to them individually about various things. I did send a couple of group emails closer in time to the wedding though to go over important details

My wedding was supposed to be last November (postponed to this October), and the only time I texted everyone in a group chat was to let them know that we had postponed. I'd rather just talk to them individually.

Chats are definitely a know your crowd thing. As seen with PPs, there are quite a few people who just really don't like them at all. For my ladies, a text/chat group worked the best as they all preferred to communicate by text as that allowed them to see and respond to messages as they were able to but still have a sense of community (they all lived in different cities, with one in an entirely different state). So I'd just suggest first making sure a chat group is what works best for your group. If so...

Same with Lisa, I only sent out a message when there was info that needed to be shared with everyone. If I left something out or the ladies had a question, they were really good about asking either in the group chat (for something they'd all need to know, like meeting time for getting ready) or in a private message ("Hey, are these earrings okay?"). I just looked through that text chain to get accurate numbers... I sent 4 Important Info texts and 1 Picture text. The picture was because I chose to go dress shopping with just my mom, but all the ladies wanted to see the dress I had picked out. If it hadn't been all of them, though, I just would have sent that individually to those who asked.

My bridesmaids and I talk everyday but we're also all best friends and our group chat is literally our go-to. We don't always talk wedding stuff so that might be another reason why we talk so often. Whenever I need to say something wedding specific, I bring it up and give them all the information they might need.

You don't have to be more active as long as you're giving the information in a good amount of time.

Very rarely, and I think the most activity was when things when pear shaped one day.

Mostly we used email, to coordinate times/logistics for the very few things we needed to do that for (dress shopping, rehearsal dinner, and one day when we sent out an SOS for help on centerpieces).

I try to keep the group chat levels to a minimum. So far I've sent the initial one out so they have each other's phone numbers, we've discussed bridesmaids' dresses as they are ordering online vs. going together, so I send updates on who got what dress and when they need to have their dresses by, and then I sent them pricing for hair and makeup and asked if they wanted it and told them they could text me privately about it. So I mostly text individually, but use the group chat for necessary updates. I HATE group chats so I try to be mindful that they probably don't love them either.

I think it depends on your friend group(s). I was in a wedding where the bride messaged all of us in a big group, and it was fun, we sent pictures and memes back and forth. But in that case we all kinda knew each other. And even the ones who didn't just got along great. For my wedding, I have 6 girls besides my sister and they're all paired off. They're from 3 friends groups really, and I was hoping they'd all get in the same kind of groove like my friend's wedding. I started with a big group chat. But it just wasn't working. I actually started texting them in pairs whenever I needed to communicate with them. So much easier and the responses were less ... polite? If that makes sense? I got a lot of "ok great!" "Sure, so excited" before lol, which is not how any of them would normally respond. The three pairs are actual good friends, otherwise I would have went completely individual on texts.

Hi!

am new an I need a lot of help with getting every think ready for my wedding but am lost in where to start right now