Bridal Party Alternative

Titles are unnecessary in this case. Either someone is a bridesmaid or they are not “Honorary “ titles have the opposite effect of what your intention may be because they basically say “you’re not good enough for the the actual role”.

As long as you have someone to sign the marriage certificate as your legal witness, you don’t need anyone standing up with you.

That’s very sweet sounding!
I’m not sure you need titles... you’re not going to be publishing their role anywhere, right? Lol ‘Dressed by Sarah and Ellen, Wardrobists Extrordinare’ ?? I think a simple note saying what you told us would suffice between you and each of them when you ask for their participation and thank them after

We're only having about 60 guests and not doing a bridal party either. My sisters and 2 best friends will be helping me get ready.

I would just ask them to come dress shopping and get ready with you! No title is necessary.

We didn't have a bridal party or groomsmen. I asked two friends to be with me when I was getting ready and to hold my bouquet, straighten my train, ... So basically bridesmaids tasks without being a bridesmaid. They knew why we chose not to have a bridal party and were very happy to help and be there for me on my wedding day. No title required just a normal conversation clarifying expectations. Just give them a call and let them know you're not having a bridal party but they are important to you and you would love for them to be with you when you get ready on your wedding day. I am sure they would love that.

View Quoted Comment Totally this! 💕

Are they both married or both single? If one is married and one sing then you can have a:
Matron of honor, for the married one and
Maid of honor if one is single. If this isn’t the case then have two maid of honors or two matron of honors.

Friend. In the midst of all the title silliness, the most important thing is each is your friend, held dear and trusted.

Just ask if they'd like to get ready with you. No need to give them a title. You can buy them a small gift as a gesture of appreciation if you want.

I'm doing the exact same thing. I don't think you need to call them anything other than your besties. Just let them know that you'd love to have them there with you to help out and help be a part of this day. I don't think they need a title.

I agree with the others. A title is not necessary since they aren’t really part of the wedding. Just ask them to go shopping with you and if you want them to get ready with you I’m sure they will. Just explain why you don’t want a bridal party.

You don't need to give them a title at all, just ask them to get ready with you.

Originally I was debating between having a bridal party or not. I had 3-4 girls I would have chosen and in the end I decided just to have my best friend be my MOH because girls #2 and #3 had conflicts around our original wedding date. Then Covid happened, my MOH got pregnant and is no longer coming. Girl #4 and I got really close so I was going to ask her to be in our wedding as my bridesmaid, but then she had a conflict on our new date. I decided not to ask #2 and #3 because they know each other but don't really get along. As it turns out #2 ended up being pretty selfish and unsupportive and is no longer coming. So of the original four girls I would have asked, only one (#3) is even attending as a guest.

I'm having three friends (none of those original four) help me the day of and get ready with me. All three have been super supportive and its honestly kind of nice just having people help who want to help and not worry about a title or obligations or expectations. The only downside is I don't really have a designated person to give a speech on my behalf and also don't have a color coordinated group of ladies to take pictures with. But I'm actually really excited about the new plan and really confident that it will be fun and not stressful.

My husband has three groomsmen (had four, had to drop one), and might have a couple other guys get ready with him as well. It will be fun!

If they aren't going to stand at the altar or expected to throw you any pre-wedding festivities, then no title is necessary. Just your good ol' girlfriends supporting you for your wedding! With that said, nothing wrong with 2 MOH. My fiancé is having 2 Best Men.

When a friend of mine got married, she asked me to arrive early and help with some set-up and help her get ready. I also did a reading in the ceremony, but I wasn't listed in the program as anything (which was totally fine!).

For my wedding, the only wedding party will be my sister as my Matron of Honor and my FH's niece and nephew as flower girl and ring bearer, but I'll probably ask a friend to also help me get ready/hang out before the ceremony.