Bridal Party and Covid 19

I haven’t at all!

So far, I haven't had any tension. A few of my bridesmaids were disappointed that we postponed and thought we could still have had our wedding, but ultimately they understood and respected our decision.

What kind of tension?

Yes. My moh just texted me a week ago asking if the wedding was still on and when I said yes, she said cool Congratz I’m out. She’s been trying to get me to postpone since June.
Which has made me feel like a crappy person for wanting to still have our wedding. We only invited 60 people total to begin with so it wasn’t ever going to be a large event.

My other two bridesmaids have been pretty chill and go with the flow, which I have appreciated.

Our wedding is still 7 months out but so far nothing. I was getting worried about finding dresses for them but my sister (MOH) really keeps me centered!

View Quoted Comment Well I posted before I was finished typing so there is that... Just their comfort level of hosting a gathering. I told them to plan what they want to plan and are comfortable with. I really meant that. It is a gift to me and I appreciate it. They are asking me what I want but are not comfortable with throwing that type of gathering. I'm over it.

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Maybe ask them what they are comfortable with (size/ outdoor only, masks, etc.) and then give them your feedback on the other stuff like food, decor, etc. if this is about bridal showers and things. That way it could have the feel of an event you like, but they feel good about it.

I've defaulted to my guests and bridesmaids the whole way - asked how they felt about driving together, hair/ makeup, masks, etc. They can also change their minds up until two days before and I'll figure it out - after that I may get ticked lol.

View Quoted Comment This is a good idea. Maybe I need use your wording.

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No problemo! Good luck! I feel like people always post the "remember, you're marrying the person you love" deal, but then everyone is getting mad at their best friends out here because of dress colors and masks. Hopefully these ladies are *also* important and set to be there for you foreva - so treat them like they are.

View Quoted Comment Exactly! I have tried very hard not to be that friend/bride. I know they mean well and they want me to be happy. This pandemic has them both out of sorts.

View Quoted Comment Wow! That would hurt my feelings. I hope she comes around.

View Quoted Comment It hurt but I can’t be mad at her for not wanting to fly across the country from Colorado to coastal Virginia, stay in a hotel, and be surrounded by 50 people she doesn’t know during a pandemic.


It wouldn’t have been so bad if she had either talked to me or phrased her text message differently.

View Quoted Comment I completely agree.

Hi Dana, my bridal shower was 22 guests and we all wore masks unless eating or drinking. A few bridesmaids couldn’t make it for various reasons and we kept it small. I LOVED it!!! Guests really got to know each other before the wedding and I got to spend quality time with each person. Pavilions and white tents are beautiful and could really work for safety and aesthetics. If financially possible, custom masks with Dana’s Bridal Shower would be so cute!!! Hand sanitizer favors are super “in” and would be an idea!! Hope this helps find a happy medium for the girls to stay safe and yet be able to celebrate with you!!!

I didn't have a bachelorette or a shower due to everything going on.

So far, no bridesmaid tension. A couple of them are not mask fans and can be pretty vocal/opinionated about it, but they have no problem wearing them for the wedding and said they wouldn't miss it.

Can't say the same for some husbands and other men in my family though.

View Quoted Comment I will have to cross the mask road very soon!

Havent had any issues with bridesmaids but my fiancé's brother is refusing to come to the wedding. We are separating our day into two groups to maintain proper social distancing with just under 20 people for the morning part and 25 of our closest friends for the evening portion (people we already regularly hang out with..no one from out of town). His brother insists we are being irresponsible moving forward with our plans (November wedding) so all we can do is respect his decision not to come and send him pictures/favors. This is such a weird time to be planning a wedding so we have had to get super creative. Something to consider is moving forward with your plans with a smaller group and then maybe in a year or so whenever everything blows over, host a large dinner for everyone who was unable/unwilling to come. In regards to masks, it isnt super ideal to have masked faces in all of your photos but I think we just need to respect how safe people feel and be thankful if they attend at all. It also is just a sign of the times and will be interesting to look back on with your kids/grandkids.

I have had one bridesmaid call out because she decided to go on a family vacation the day of the wedding, and one groomsman who most likely won't be able to make it, since he's in another part of the country. I do have one bridesmaid that tells me that the only thing stopping her from going to my wedding is another lockdown, but for the most part everyone is chill.

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View Quoted Comment It is a very weird time. Many people are on edge and scared. I completely get it and we have to be sensitive to each others feelings. This is not how I imagined wedding planning going.