Bridal Party Dances

I think you have a very good point. I am thinking that we can have a bridal party dance with the BP and their SO's. That way we can honor the BP and let them dance with the people they are with.

We didn't do one, not necessarily for the reasons you stated. We just wanted to cut down on those 'special events' during the reception, and neither one of us cared about this dance.

I would feel uncomfortable asking them to do it, or to be the one being asked. I think you are 100% right on this.

I wouldn't want to do one, because I know it would upset certain SO.

We didn't do one either for all the reasons you listed. Just didn't see the point ....

I wasn't even aware of this tradition, but like most of the traditions that involve weddings, we won't be participating in this either! I could see that working out fine back in the old'n days, when the bridesmaids and groomsmen consisted all of singles, but that is just unrealistic these days. And kinda weird. I know that I personally would not be thrilled to have to slow dance with someone I didn't feel a certain way about in front of a bunch of people

I've never understood bridal party dances. Just b/c we're paired up down the aisle doesn't mean we need to be forced to pretend we're on a date! And what if you have an uneven WP, or if they are single and don't bring a date or SO to the wedding? I've had to do a WP dance a couple of times and both times it felt kind of embarrassing and awkward.

I say just say no! lol.

They are super awkward and embarrassing. I have only been to one wedding where it was done and I was a bridesmaid. I had to walk/dance with a guy that I had drunkenly hooked up with in my single life and FH had to watch me dance with him. He wasn't thrilled, but he was cool about it. It was very uncomfortable. The bride thought it was funny. I love her to death, but it wasn't funny.

I wouldn't consider it disrespectful to the partner's of the bridal party after all it's just dancing but it seems totally pointless and boring. I doubt the bridal party enjoys it or would consider it a "honor". I can't remember the last time I saw it to be honest.

Yeah. I agree w/Angelina. It's not an honor b/c it's just SO awkward and everyone else is bored and feel uncomfortable too. lol. We're not doing one, we're doing a bride/groom 1st dance, and then during the 2nd song- we're asking everyone there to join us. The BP gets their "honor" in the programs, and if we do a grand entrance.... not sure about that yet either though. I had to do the awkward BP dance last summer as a BM, and since the groom was 20 years older than the bride, his GM were that much older than the BM's. SO I had to dance w/a guy I'd never met before and who was 20+ years older than me, while my FH and his wife looked on.... needless to say, it was awkward and would have been much nicer for all of us to dance w/out SO's.

That awkward factor is also why I'm not doing the garter or bouquet tosses too.

The last wedding that I was a bridesmaid in, we did this. I didn't find it awkward, but probably because I was partnered with the bride's brother and I've known him for years. My fiancé didn't get upset - it's not like it was a romantic dance or anything, he just knew that it was part of what the bride and groom wanted at their wedding.

But we're not doing this at our wedding - to be honest, I just want to get the formalities done (speeches, bride & groom first dance) and get the party started!!

I did this at my wedding and nobody found it to be awkward. My BP dance started out with a slow song but then we mixed it up with a fast song and switched partners...it was fun and everyon liked it

I have been in a lot of weddings and I HATE when the bride requested this!! I end up dancing with a guy I barely know and having his SO stare me down, no thank you!

On behalf of previous and future BM, please don't do this ladies lol. Also, we do not need to be honored by a dance, I think when they call you into the reception room is good enough.

We're not doing one either, for the reasons you stated, because we have an uneven bridal party, and because we are already making our guests watch us dance and then father/daughter mother/son dances. Yet another dance is pushing the limits of boredom! If I could get away with not doing the parent dances either, I totally would, but I know my dad and his mom would be hurt.

Not disrespectful at all. I went to a wedding last year where they did this. just totally your preference they will have all night to dance with their spouse/signifcant other

We are not doing this. As a former BM in several friends weddings, they are awkward for the people dancing - especially if they don't know each other. As a former guest of several weddings. they are boring as hell and the perfect time to take a smoke break outside.